My Life Coalesced

Funny Kids

2012-02-10T22:03:00.001+11:00

Feet smell a little stinky after the crocodile farm in Langkawi.

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Our Family Portraiture by Derrick Neo

2012-02-08T23:09:00.002+11:00

Goodness. Haven't quite found the time to update the blog as my mum is staying with me for the next 3 weeks. In the meantime, just a few more great shots from Derrick. Love them! - Posted using BlogPress from my iPad

Back on Track

2012-02-05T00:44:00.001+11:00

While we were on a family vacation, so did the blog! I have unpacked most of our luggages, 5 down, 2 to go! I didn't say it was a short vacation!! I have too many photo to share and still too many to download so please, be patient but you won't be disappointed! There are a number of good ones in there!!!!! In meantime, I just want to share a photo from Miss A's photo from her end of year concert last year. Thanks to Mrs Joyce Clarke for sharing!

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Our Family Portraiture by Derrick Neo

2012-01-18T22:33:00.001+11:00

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Our Family Portraiture by Derrick Neo

2012-01-08T22:00:00.001+11:00

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My Top 3

2011-12-17T21:06:00.001+11:00

I absolutely love to host a lovely intimate afternoon tea party. I don't know what it is about it but I get a lot of enjoyment and satisfaction out of a tea party rather than a lunch or dinner.

I haven't done one in a while, sadly, and I am quite keen to get back to hosting one once in a while for my girlfriends after Christmas and after the holidays is over!

While in the midst of Christmas shopping, I have noticed a new array of cake stands featuring little birds which have definitely given me the sweet chirpy tingles because they are soooo very very gorgeous!

This one is made from cast aluminum and features 2 faux bois tiers, a center branch and bird on top. It makes such a beautiful, decorative and versatile centerpiece as well which for me means it doesn't really have to come out of the pantry only to serve cakes.

Love love love Whitney Smith's handmade pottery - that it is absolutely functional and lovingly crafted. Like her platters, serving plates, salad bowls and vases, every piece is a sculpture, and every piece can be used the way you like it.

This bird cake stand comes with a cloche dome cover. It is by far my favorite all because of the elegant little birdy dome! But it is probably the least functional just by looking its glass stem (one swipe from Master C's right hand and c'est la vie!) and that heavy dome. But it is one that blends in beautifully with the rest of my tea ware.

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Mummy Knows

2011-12-16T18:39:00.001+11:00

Miss A came home from school with a hilarious but as-a-matter-of-fact story.

A: Naomi, Callista and I were put in a group together for the enquiry unit. When we were writing down our report, Ted put my hat on his head.

Mum: So he was wearing your hat?

A: Yeah, he did. And Callista told him to take it off.

Mum: So did he?

A: He didn't at first. He was making jokes and all that. You know, being funny, just being Ted.

Mum: Was he teasing you girls?

A: No, he didn't, he was just being silly like "Look at me, I am wearing a girl's hat. I am a laaaaadddyyy...I am a mummmmyyy"

Mum: So what did you say?

A: I just laughed. He was funny. But Callista told him to take the hat off. She said, girls are mummies. And mummies want you to take your hat off. You shouldn't be wearing someone else's hat!

Mum: Oh, she said that?

A: Yeah, yeah, she said don't wear someone else's hat because you will get hair lice!

Mum: Quite true, sweetheart. Maybe it has happened to her before and her mummy told her not to wear someone else's hat.

A: So Ted said, "Well, I am daddy and daddy says wears mummy's hat!"

Mum: Really??? That is funny!!!

A: Callista said "Listen to mummy because mummy knows. Daddy doesn't know nothing! Take it off!"

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Ideas for Santa

2011-12-13T14:53:00.002+11:00

It was the last day of Master C's music lesson at Heydeeho today so some mums organized a lovely get-together at the park where we could all hang out once last time before the long break. Of course, the hot topic of the hour was Christmas presents for the kids, and not just that, presents for other kids in family - nephews, nieces, big and small. I told them my side of the story and they thought some of the presents I mentioned were worth sharing with Santa, just in case he needs extra ideas. So here it is Santa, just in case.....

TIGER TRIBE

- I love stuffs from Tiger Tribe, which is an Australian-based company made up of fresh young minds who are graphics artists and illustrators keen on producing gorgeous good quality children's toys. A lot of their stuffs are so beautifully made, delightful and vibrant that I will definitely collect them as keepsakes long after the kids have outgrown them.

Portable Wooden Beach Villa. Comes with all the components. To pack them all up, just stuff all the components into the villa and lock it with the built-in elastic clips. Great for traveling.

Peacock Mobile. Made entirely out of fabric, they are so gorgeous in so many ways it is just not made for the baby's nursery. Older kids will still enjoy having them up in their room for years to come. Well, at least before they discover they can put up posters of Edward and Bella, Harry Potter or Justin Bieber on the wall.

The Sweet Things Mini Stamp Kit. They have a larger version as well with more stamps and more color palette. I love the mini kit more because they are great to travel with and you can get an entirely different mini kit so the kids get a bit more variety out of them.

ALIMROSE DESIGNS

Another great Australian-based company that makes exquisite dolls and soft baby toys with a variety of stylish and quirky fabric that gives it such a unique vintage feel. Miss A had a stripey red monkey squeaky baby toy that has now found its pride of place in Master C's bedroom even though the monkey no longer squeaks! But the monkey squeaker still has its beautiful red-white stripes long after many washes in the washing machine, after so many years!

Little Red Riding Hood. The doll is stitched and all its features are embroidered that gives it a lovely authentic vintage feel.

The Little Cowboy. I think it makes a gorgeous cuddly company and a lovely keepsake for any little boy or girl. Just don't think Brokeback Mountain.

JANOD

Designed in the Jura Mountains in France, Janod toys are known for its impeccably high quality and safety standards. I read that they have inspection programme at each stage of the production process and have set its standards to the highest ISO in Europe. No wonder, their price range shows it!

Fruit Crate.

Birthday Cake.

I know these wooden fruit and wooden cake don't look like much of a toy but I can assure you that kids go mad simply cutting up the fruit as well as cutting up and dividing the cake. They - well, my Miss A and Master C anyway - get truly engrossed by the intensity that I have to get separate sets so there are no wooden food fights. They then mix it up with other cooking playthings and create their little world of make believe dinner parties and tea parties.

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Bizarre Fakes

2011-12-12T19:27:00.000+11:00

Christmas shopping. While I totally love to immerse myself in getting into the spirit of it, sometimes I feel present-buying is a real cop out. I believe if you show your loved ones how much you cherish them or want to tell some people that you love them by giving something special, it doesn't really have to wait till December 25, or February 14, or their birthday for that matter. It should be something that happens just any day. Haven't you seen something in a shop on a random day and say to yourself, "Oh, so and so would love this!" or "I know exactly who needs this!"

My way, really is to buy it there and then (especially if there is a sale discount on that particular item) and give it to the person with the message "When I saw it, I thought of you!" How incredibly sweet is that? Sure you can put it away until the person's birthday if you prefer. I just don't think we should drag our heels when we are looking for a present, or dread the day the person's birthday draws near, or struggle to figure out what the heck to buy! If any of these situations arise, that person, well, unfortunately, I don't think that person is all that loved and cherished then!

Sure, there will be the odd acquaintance, colleagues, husband's best friend's wife, wife's boss's son (getting engaged) or daughter's teacher you have to buy for, but when it comes to someone who are within your 'Circle of Trust' (taking from Jack Byrnes in Meet the Parents) then it shouldn't be an unpleasant experience, right?

Anyway, the reason why I am on this topic is that I just read in a British paper that the Border Security Agency have intercepted million dollars worth of counterfeit goods which were bound for British households. The Agency have confiscated boxes upon boxes, crates upon crates of luxury good most hectically this holiday season. People who have shopped online awaiting delivery will be very surprised to discover that Santa's delivery has been seized. While I initially thought these confiscated goods must have been mainly fake Louis Vuitton bags from Thailand, dodgy Gucci wallets from Indonesia and copies of Tommy Hilfiger shirts from Vietnam, I was wrong. Very very wrong! I am quite amazed by what counterfeiters are branching into now.

Fake Links of London bracelets worth £145 are made from banned metals and cause bad rash.

Fake Pandora charms bracelets worth £65 for bracelet and £30 for each charm are made from nickel and toxic metals which cause bad rash and skin allergies.

Fake GHD hair straighteners and hair dryer worth £165 that are not made to Europeans standards overheat easily and could cause burns and short circuits.

Fake Jo Malone scented candles worth £65 contains banned ingredients and the glass is incredibly substandard that they could easily crack due to heat.

On that note, shop wisely, everyone!

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My Top 3

2011-12-09T21:18:00.001+11:00

This week sure has gone so very quick! I haven't even had a chance to take a breath and now, it is Friday already????

It was madness this week and the week before as there were a keyboard recital to practice for (Miss A's 1 minute of spotlight mixed with utter stage fright) and a school concert to prepare for. At the end of both events, I thought to myself, and this is only 1 child? Whatever will happen to me and my poor brain when Master C starts school?

School holidays is not too long to go now and sure enough, this household can't wait! I, for one, need to sleep in. I need to sleep in. I really need to sleep in. I really do!

And of course, Christmas is just less than 20 days away and I am relief all the presents are already done. I can't help noticing a few of you haven't!!! Well, not to worry....I thought it is timely if I share my Christmas inspirations and ideas in The Christmas Special My Top 3 this week!

This amazing wrapping is so easy to do. Love the ceramic letters. The kids can decide if they want to hang them on the Christmas tree or in their bedroom. If you prefer wooden letters or plastic ones, you can try craft shops like Lincraft and Spotlight or toy shops.

I am a little bit obsessed with specialty wreaths this Christmas. I am not a big fan of those made out of plastic green bush, plastic pine cones, plastic holly and horrible gold dust that get stuck on your hands as you are putting the wreath up and no gold dust left after spending 2 weeks hung at the front door! While I still have a traditional one for the front door - one that was handmade by my friend Liliana 10 years ago! (Yes, I still have it and it still looks good!), I have gone for another one that could be placed in and around the house even after the festivities.

My friend Yen gave me a wooden Christmas tree a few years ago - one that came complete with little hanging ornaments as well. It is perfectly sized to be placed as a decoration on the dining table, credenza, sideboard, buffet, whatever you call your furniture, it is just gorgeous! I love it so much that this wooden tree still makes a grand appearance every Christmas. I saw some new ones recently and thought perhaps it is not a bad idea to get another one that would make a lovely centerpiece on the dining table. Mine comes as basic as just natural wood. I can decorate any way I like, even Miss A can do it. After a couple of Christmases, it just needs a facelift with a new color. I think it is a very simple idea and just a little quirky!

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Alexa

2011-12-05T22:57:00.002+11:00

I really don't know what it is about Alexa Chung's flair in fashion that earns her consistent accolades and is often celebrated as a style inspiration. I can see she is a stunning looking woman with a gorgeous slender figure. I notice she doesn't wear a lot of make-up most of the time and she doesn't look heavily done up every time I see her in publications.

I really like that she doesn't channel 'high maintenance' and she doesn't scream "Look at me!! My boobs are popping out!!" Also she doesn't do excess either. She doesn't just dress up in exclusive and luxury fashion just because she can. As a mum, it sends the right message to young girls who will eventually and inevitably turn to people like Alexa - popular figures in pop culture for clues!

However, I have found myself questioning some of her odd choice of outfits. I think she has been awarded Best British Style 2 or 3 years in a row but she has certainly made some amusing choices and here's just a couple of them.

Sure, it is a Louis Vuitton dress but it doesn't suit her modern, contemporary flair one bit!

Wow oh wow. I don't know where to look. The shoes are fabulous though!!

But I must admit she will never ever look awful in anything, just a little funny sometimes. Alexa Chung is known for her distinctive personal style and I guess that is a reason why she is so enjoyable to watch. Even when a dress is borderline frumpy, she still oozes extraordinary style. I love these:

Impeccable, don't you think?

This is the way to do ladylike! Love it. And she looks at ease and comfortable!

I am fascinated by tailored shorts at the moment. So this really gives me the buzz for summer!

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My Top 3

2011-12-02T23:42:00.002+11:00

Loving this candle at the moment. Subtle yet mesmerizing. And I am not just making up words. It is really is! I can't appreciate candle scent that is too overwhelming because they might as well be car air fresheners. MOR candles are quite delightful and I have gone through enough of them, and so far none of which I find revolting. They are within a good mid range price as oppose to some impossibly expensive scented candles.

Whats's this? Summer is upon Melbourne. Yey. But I say it with not much excitement. Sadly, it doesn't feel anything close to it! Just so you know the weather for the next 7 days will be around 20 degrees. A bit disappointing, but it could give me a bit of time to source for the perfect pair of lace shorts.

It is about time Mr Daniel Day-Lewis appears on my blog again! I was ecstatic when I read he has been cast to play Abraham Lincoln and is currently shooting the movie. This picture was twitted by UVAMichael which appeared to have taken the picture while Daniel Day-Lewis was having a lunch. He is known method actor, and is widely regarded as one of the best there is. He has been known to remain in character in between takes, during breaks and even outside of shooting. I can't wait.

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HRV

2011-11-30T13:10:00.001+11:00

I have had a couple of days' break after Miss A's birthday celebration. I am recuperating - still. Just want to post these shots of Master C in HRV jersey, the kit of Croatia's national team. He is accumulating quite a kit collection!

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Birthday on Ice

2011-11-26T21:33:00.001+11:00

Thankfully, the outcome of the party was just a couple of wet bums, a few ice skate changes (wrong size - too tight, too loose), minor slips (while trying to remain upright) but no crashes. Most of the girls have not done ice skating before so I must admit I felt a weird feeling dawned on me just as they were putting on their skating gear. But as it turns out, all the girls did great and I was personally very proud of each of them!

The girls started eating straight away before they went on the skating rink. Good idea, they need the energy!!

OK, time to get ready for skating! So the girls nicely lined up as other girls were getting ready.

Hahaha...this was really the funniest bits because it was the first moment their skates touched the ice and the instructor asked them to get moving straight away! No time for anyone to get acquainted with their new feet!

Here the instructor is teaching them how to get off their bottom in the case they fall down. A few giggles there!

Future figure skaters?

Future ice hockey players? Especially the one in the middle.

Yes, definitely the one in the middle!

Hahaha. I love this one of the boys (brothers of the girls). What do boys do while waiting for the girls? The boy in the middle couldn't decide which iPad to follow, so he watched the video with Master C and watched the older boy playing a game. Left...right...left...right...

Clever girl won a price from the DJ!

Oh, the cake! Miss A had her eyes on this cake for months now since she first spotted it at Breadtop. I am please I don't need to purchase anything fancy and complicated.

I think it is a sheep dog.

Here comes Master C ready to blow the candles!!!

Happy 7th Birthday, sweetheart, finally! I have another 364 days to recover from this!

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My Top 3

2011-11-25T15:27:00.001+11:00

Last Friday I started a segment called My Top 3 just for a bit of fun, especially if I run out of ideas for new posts but as you can see this week, I don't seem to have any problems!

Miss A officially celebrated her 7th birthday yesterday. We have a good dozen photos to post so we can update family and friends faraway and overseas. Thanks for all your wishes and presents, and particularly to those of you in Malaysia, we are coming to celebrate with you all over again!! I am sure Miss A herself is not going to complain! And by the way, there will be more party photos after tomorrow!

I still want to share this week's My Top 3. And here they are - - -

First up is Hugh Laurie (aka Dr House MD) singing blues! Just can't get enough of it!! Hugh released the album early this year - his first foray into blues music and it is brilliant, and soulful.

Love this app called Animal Kingdom Chinese4Kids. It uses sounds, animal noises, flash cards and characters to teach Mandarin. Needless to say it is interactive but also imaginative. I love the tool that teaches the child to make the exact pronunciation as well as the added tool to teach writing. Suits both Miss A and Master C. I notice each child will choose their preferred tool - Miss A explores more about the game as she can read the instructions and through listening, understands the various levels of games that makes it so much more fun. Master C tend to go for the animal noises and word pronunciation. He is pretty good getting the tonal sounds correct.

We all need a bit of help, particularly when 'we' are approaching the big 4-0. GASP! I also alternate between Burt's Bee Ageless Serum (more targeted at wrinkles but hey, I need help in that department too!!!)

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Our Dinner Date with Birthday Girl

2011-11-25T11:06:00.001+11:00

"Here we are!!!" Miss A has been so excited about this dinner date. She has been talking about it for weeks and in the last few days, she seems to have informed every person that crosses her path! I went to pick her up from school today and because I was running a little late, I called up one of the mums telling her to keep an eye on the birthday girl. When I arrive, I went to meet her at the oval where she was with her friends and the mum i had phoned earlier. There, a couple of other mums told me to have a good time this evening as they have been told by a particular someone that we were going to have seafood by the marina and watch the sunset! I also saw 3 of her teachers as I was putting her in the car and guess what they also said to me! Oh sweetheart! Keep a low profile please!

Of course, she was pretty pleased with the place when she got there.

But I am not that sure about this guy here. Seems just so blasé about the whole atmosphere! Hey little man! There is a huge bridge behind you! And so many fast boats and big boats just down below! And those people training on their dragon boats!

Ooooh, the menu! She ordered the meal all by herself. From the kids' menu.

I am SEVEN!! You see my fingers! I am SEVEN! Even the waiting staff had a few giggles!!!

Yes, we know you are SEVEN, sweetheart! Goodness! What's gonna when you turn 8? Mummy and Daddy should leave the country.

Oh, this was me. A bit taken by the fanciness of the bottle!

She was guessing what I have organized for her birthday cake. I wouldn't tell her but she spotted the waiting staff getting it ready and told me cheekily she already knew what it was.

SEVEN macaroons!!!!!!!! For some reason, Miss A has never been a fan of cakes. A little odd since she has always have a penchant for sweet food. She just loves these macaroons from Cafe Luis so being the doting mother that I am...here they are in seven gorgeous candy colors.

Oh, now thats got Master C excited!! Blowing the candles!!!!!! And look at big sister - tenderly watching her little brother and so lovingly allowing him to blow them out.

The raspberry one is the first to disappear! My favourite too actually.

The lemon one for Master C. Oooooh....zesty!

C'mon Mum, let's get ice-cream!!!!!!!

Serious. Means good.

Still serious. Means very good.

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Our Girl

2011-11-25T07:11:00.006+11:00

Sipping a glass of juice at age 7.

Sipping a glass of juice at age 2.

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Sweetheart is Seven

2011-11-24T08:37:00.003+11:00

You have given so much joy to both Daddy and I, sweetheart! You may not realize this now, as we haven't really made the effort to tell you, frankly - is that you charm us with your beautiful heart, and that you never fail to mesmerize us with your impeccable patience - for your little brother especially.

We know that somedays we ask a lot of you. We want impeccable manners, we want excellent school work, we want fantastic improvements in Mandarin, we want you to eat all your greens, and we want you to be cheerful, and happy and fun-loving day in day out! Somedays we forget you are just seven! It is hard being Miss A. I can imagine you lamenting about this when you are 12. And that's not a long way away either!

You have done us proud in so many ways, sweetheart and to list it all would be quite a feat! I am not just saying this just because it is your birthday.

Of course, as nature would have it, you are not all angel as I sometimes make you to be. And I would most certainly like to make a list of that on your 7th birthday. I think it is quite important I have this on record so when you are able to read this blog, you will know how to thank me, on your next birthday, perhaps?

You were never a good sleeper. You were a terrible sleeper right from the day you were born. OK, to be fair, I should say you were a terrible sleeper since you were one month old. I had to rock you in my arms to get you to sleep at night, and as months passed, and as your weight became an issue in my skinny arms, your bedtime was not a pleasant time for me.

You were and still are a picky eater. I must say you are so much better now than a year ago, but still, if only you have a wider range of food preferences.

You talk too much. I know it's every seven year old girls' prerogative but if only you could channel that talking energy into...say doing maths energy? That would be fabulous!

You bug me way too often, way too much about getting a pet. No sweetheart. No cat. No dog. No hamster. No rabbit. No lizard. Not now. Maybe when your brother turns seven (I know I said when he turns 5).

All that aside, I think you live up to your nickname. Sweet. Heart. And your first name The Wise One - I think you have some good street sense worth developing! And your Chinese name that means Happy Child. Need I elaborate?

Daddy, Cashel and I are looking forward to our special dinner tonight sweetheart. Happy Seventh Birthday!

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My Dream Symphonica

2011-11-23T11:48:00.001+11:00

HE. IS. COMING.

March 2012.

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全家福

2011-11-22T08:33:00.002+11:00

Master C couldn't let his pet 'lady bug' go. So he kept it on the palm of his hand.

Master C showing us his pet. Miss A is posing again.

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The Mini Mario Testino

2011-11-21T18:16:00.002+11:00

Do you sometimes wonder how we adults appear in the eyes of a child?

Well now you can see how we look through the eyes and lens of Master C. On Sunday, I gave Master C all the freedom to use the camera to take photos of us after a family yum cha at Plume Doncaster. A number of the photos were blur or had half of someone's face or nose or full close up of someone's chin! But here are the good ones!

Oh dear, hair really needs a good trim ASAP! Albert, here I am!!!!!

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Dudes in their Sunnies

2011-11-20T21:16:00.001+11:00

Like father, like son. Enough said.

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A Hint to Farr

2011-11-19T15:03:00.001+11:00

When one is bored while stuck during school drop off, one's mind goes places.

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My Top 3

2011-11-18T15:35:00.002+11:00

Here comes the weekend! Looking forward to spending some quality family time but the weather is going to be wet! Oh, Melbourne - one day you excite me, one day you intrigue me and other days you frustrate me! Yet, this weather mystery is not going to put me off sharing My Top 3. I thought it is quite a fun way to start a segment on this blog to get me going for the weekend, no matter what the weather brings!!

This weekend, I love....

I have just hopped on the bandwagon despite desperate calls from my dear girlfriends that I should find real civilization and utilise the technology or I will be left behind by all the goodness that it brings to modern life!! Loving this app but I still can't hardly find time to reply all the messages!!

I also love....

The latest from Anya Hindmarch's Autumn/Winter 2011/2012 is the Nevis Raw in calf leather. No, I haven't bought this one but the leather is so velvety and buttery that I can't help but want to touch it! I have an existing Nevis in monogrammed canvas that I have had since MasterC's baby days. It is perfect as a baby bag to begin with. I use the front 2 patch pockets to store wipes, nappies and hand disinfectant (the hygiene section, you can call it!). The bag inside is so roomy. I use mine for personal items as well for the kids' stuff like a jacket here, a cardigan there, water bottles, snack boxes (yeah - just dump them in!!). I can just imagine how sturdy this calf leather version must be. And when it is no longer used to put kids' things in, the leather is so gorgeous I can imagine it continued being shopping shopping and traveling tote.

And I definitely love....

This is my magic potion. Read the words and you will be quite blown away! It can be used as an antiseptic for minor cuts, for insect bites, kill germs and bacteria, for aches and pains....and if that's not enough, I use it in the bathroom to freshen up and clean the toilet seat area, in the kitchen to deodorize the bins (and after cooking curries!), in Master C's bedroom particularly after changing his notorious nappies (I keep a can in his room!). And I spray on the kids clothes to remove any grease marks and stains, especially when they had been some minor accidents (toilet training season has commenced!) it is great to use on soiled area before washing. Yes this spray plays a big part in the above mentioned quality family time....so do you have your Top 3 for the weekend?

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You Will Never Walk Alone

2011-11-17T09:14:00.013+11:00

Master C has outgrown his football uniform and as Term 4 is almost over, he is wearing one from his collection for the time being while we wait for the 2012 season outfit. Secretly, I wish they will change their current uniform from the green and yellow - which emulates the Socceroos' official team kit (green and gold) - to the dashing cobalt blue and black just like the ones being worn by their coaches since the beginning of this term.

I personally think the current uniform is well and truly outdated and even for a toddlers' football team, it is extremely uninspiring. I know Australia's official sporting colors are green and gold but sporting colors, just like the hard work and training that go into the making of a sportsperson, need improvement!

Well, well, thanks to Farr and Granny, here's Master C in all of his Liverpool FC glory! The black and yellow is their 3rd kit for 2010/2011 season.

Oh. The last photo was taken by Master C after he had chased me around the court for taking pictures of him in front of his coaches and team mates. Not a bad shot!

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Sweetheart Princess

2011-11-16T08:19:00.001+11:00

Take a good look!

Thank you Aunty Karen for sending the 'postcard from Buckingham Palace'. See what a priced possession it is?

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Sleepy Head

2011-11-15T16:13:00.001+11:00

I don't like taking pictures of children sleeping, even babies but this time, I couldn't help myself anymore. I love the juxtaposition of an exhausted toddler in green socks covered by a pink blanket.

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Pop's Birthday

2011-11-14T12:19:00.000+11:00

Pop even dressed up in the colors of his favorite cake - green tea mousse cake with strawberry toppings!

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Gone Scooting Mad!

2011-11-13T22:22:00.000+11:00

Some of you have sure heard years worth of complaint from me about Melbourne's weather especially this year's brutal winter. When the weather in Melbourne is bad, it is awful, horrendous and simply crap. When the weather is good, it is great. Fantastic. Perfect. One of those magical days that keep you wanting more and more. And so on crappy days, your only hope is for the good weather to come back soon.

Again, today's weather was simply perfect. It was perfect to take the kids out scootering in the neighborhood. We didn't go to the beach today though. Saturday is normally quite a busy day starting from getting Miss A out of the house in time for Chinese school then Master C for swimming lesson. I tend to run a few errands on the way home after Chinese school but today I had a few more than usual as Miss A's birthday is coming up really soon. Yes! She will be turning 7 at the end of month! Yikes!

Anyway, by late afternoon, we were ready for some outdoor activities so they hopped onto their scooters and off we went. Then as I was out there enjoying the breeze brushing up my face, I thought to myself everyone should have a scooter! And I mean everyone! Mums and Dads too! Since Christmas is just another 6 weeks to go, I thought I should share my thoughts about kids' scooters just in anyone anticipation anyone might need some help with ideas!

The first scooter we ever got was a Micro scooter for Miss A - a Mini Micro. She was 3 plus at the time and we were just about to move to Hyderabad. It was the best thing because we were in transition at the time and lived temporarily in hotels while waiting for our house to be ready and for our furniture to arrive from Melbourne. While Hubby was at work, we were stucked in the hotel most of the time. Apart from swimming in the hotel pool and watching Cartoon Network all day, I would brave the elements and still take Miss A out discovering a new city. Hyderabad hotels are large, a lot larger than what one would see in Melbourne or KL and the space is perfect for scooters!

The Mini Micro is light weight and extremely stable due to the 2 front wheels. It doesn't need to be steered to turn corners, the scooter turns only when the child's body turns. I love it - because the child actually have to use her body movements to change directions, not simply turning the handle bars lazily. This way the child learns to balance on her hips, knees, calves and feet a great deal and naturally, develops their overall body coordination. This scooter has been to lots of places with us because it is light first of all and then it can also be dismantled into 2 main parts which I just throw into the luggage whenever we travel. It has been to Hyderabad, New Delhi, KL, Mumbai (we didn't take it to Rajasthan though - would have been awkward on those narrow cobbled stone streets!), Alor Setar, Penang, Melbourne, Adelaide, Gold Coast many times over! It has lasted Miss A some 4 glorious years and now this Mini Micro belongs to Master C who has well and truly mustered it. He goes so fast now the only way to catch up with him is to send Miss A to go after him!

Miss A has now been promoted to using a bigger scooter, called the Maxi Micro (Mini to Maxi - get it?). Again, it is a beautifully made. The handle bar is adjustable and believe it when I say, I love it too! When Miss A is at school, I will take every chance to get on it. Some parents probably think I am scooting mad.

The Maxi Micro comes apart as well. You've guessed it. It is coming with us next month to Malaysia! So if you are considering which scooter to get for your child this Christmas, check out Micro (I sound like I am doing ads for them - if only they'd pay me!). They have scooters for adults too. Think of me when you are checking them out! I want!!!!!!

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Rude Bits

2011-11-12T21:26:00.002+11:00

Funny photo isn't it? Master C is at it again, playing with the photo booth on the iPad. This was 'created' with the mirror image function and I must say, at first glance, it looked like someone's rude bits! But then once you examine closely, it looks more like a little baby bear. Just in case you haven't yet work it out, it is Master C's hair and ear, on the bottom is his shirt and on the top is the down lights on the ceiling!!

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Duchess

2011-11-11T15:23:00.003+11:00

I think the Duchess of Cambridge looks lovely whenever she appears in public. As much as she wants to be shielded from the intense public interest that was thrust upon her late mother-in-law, I find her appearances intriguing and even fresh each time. Under exposure sure beats over exposure in this case.

The latest is a picture of her in a sumptuous white silk Grecian dress. Same hair - yes but it works well on her so yeah, stick to it, why not?

But then there is Pippa Middleton. I just don't get it. I don't get why she is "The Royal Hotness". I have posted a picture here that shot her into global fame and I am still bewildered. Sure, the dress is nice but sure it is not stunning. The cleavage is plunged enough within boundaries of royal protocol yet provide the media something to get excited about. And that behind of hers. Great ass? Really? And she looks haggard. Older than her big sister. Much older, don't you think?

And when the 3 Middleton women are together, Pippa looks like Carole's younger sister. Also, she must go easy with that fake tan.

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Joinery

2011-11-10T15:11:00.001+11:00

What's this you may ask. Hubby and I are still looking for inspiration for our family living area, specifically where we would like the TV to stand and a display cabinet where family collectibles like framed photographs should be placed. It's been almost 2 years since we moved in and we are still deciding. Our current family living space is working well but our much-loved teak TV stand is way too small for the current space it is in which makes the area as a whole looking rather bare, odd and cold.

Our current family entertainment area has a generous dimension of 2.2 meters in width so a solid timber unit will warm the space up quite nicely just like in the picture. It will also absorb a lot of the echo throughout the rest of the open living area. This picture is really getting me close to the line though. If only hubby also agrees! But typical Libran man - still deciding!

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All I Want for Christmas

2011-11-09T07:18:00.002+11:00

Well, not really. Not yet anyway. But I have been browsing what we will see a lot of in 2012.

Eclectic chic has definitely lingered for much longer than trendsetters were led to believe and thank heavens for that. To me, eclectic always means have things your own way - be it red suede loafers, utility jeans in burnt orange or mix matched accessories. Channelling Cameron Diaz, Emma Watson and Olivia Palermo, I think eclectic chic women are never too afraid to have lots of fun with their clothes. They always show so much of their personal character in every piece they put on. Or, more realistically, perhaps it has everything to do with youth. You can look as quirky as you like when you're young and onlookers still label you eclectic, I guess.

The classic style is not going anywhere it seems. What Audrey Hepburn and Coco Chanel presented to the fashion world have morphed into far more meticulous and luxurious versions. Its simplicity yet bold understatement makes it easier and easier to put together as age catches up. I know so. I am conscious my daughter is turning 7 in the world of underage grown ups, Lady Gaga and Apple is changing the way they live their life. Fashion is already a topic of interest for her but thankfully (touch wood) she still wants me to dress her. And thankfully, she still prefers children's clothings and not pre- teen fashions. Yet. A lot of her friends are already looking really trend-driven. Think Hannah Montana.

I have already started thinking when will be my moment in my personal history when I need to dress my age before my child tells me to. Or when child thinks floral dresses are for nana's and knee high socks must only be paired with super short hipsters shorts. Potentially traumatic. I shouldn't be this morbid. The idea for this post was brought on by something amazing I saw in Style.com that I must share with you. It is one of those shoes by Prada that scream O-M-G. What a beauty.

This bag, however, is a lot more practical and functional now that hubby and I have been enjoying more dates while the kids get left behind (not alone of course). A lovely girl named Amanda comes over whenever we need her. She is a such a joy to have and the kids adore her so much but they will be quite disappointed to see a lot less of her after she gets married later this year. And she always smells lovely - like lemon and strawberries, according to my poetic daughter. (I think its called Ralph Lauren Romance, sweetie). Enough of Amanda.

This bag by Marc Jacobs is quite the perfect mini carryall especially when I can swap carrying kids' wipes, kids' sanitizer and kids' snacks in a giant tote and replaced them with just my lipstick, just my compact, just my credit card and just my phone. I enjoy carrying clutches when it's just hubby and I gallivanting without the offsprings but they are still a tight squeeze even with just those few little personal items. A bag this size makes a lot more sense. The gold chain strap - sleek. The leather shoulder band - comfy. The snake or lizard skin leather (I hope it is printed leather and not exotic) - gorgeous. The blend of color mixed with a spot of green (apple or mint you think?) - unique (eclectic?). The front pocket - so cute! Love it.

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The Rock

2011-11-08T13:23:00.001+11:00

I want to share a few more shots taken by a dear friend's hubby at Dylan's party (thanks Ashley, thanks Victor!) that captured The Rock's personality very well. He is quite a character as you will eventually get to know more about him.

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Dylan is 2

2011-11-07T10:52:00.001+11:00

No need to say anymore....all our kids are growing up right before our eyes. Dylan's Mummy and Daddy threw a spectacular train-themed party yesterday for their little man's second birthday. I know for a fact that the Clarks had a mighty puffing good time mainly because Master C is train-obsessed himself and the train ride was so close to being in the Island of Sodor! The miniature trains, train tracks, train depots, platforms, tunnels and and even a number of Fat Controllers were lot of fun for everyone, even Daddy, Mummy and Big Sister. Thanks Yen and Nick for a fabulous day!

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Sunset Party

2011-11-06T10:08:00.002+11:00

Yet another amazing day by the sands! This time to bid farewell to the Clarke family who will be uprooting to England. But we all love days like this, don't we? We can easily make more excuses to get together like this anytime, anywhere.

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Pain in the....

2011-11-05T11:03:00.001+11:00

I am quite sure that you know someone in your life who is utterly self-absorbed, boastful, arrogant and absolutely a tragic to spend an extra moment with. You know, people who brag all the time. About themselves. About their children. About their life. I find this type of people rather unwell actually. You know, it is much like an illness or a disorder - mental or physiological, it's not my position to ascertain. Certainly from experience, such condition can be easily be classified by the degree on how awful they can be to people they boast and brag to - from mild to malignant, from monotonic to toxic. Of course, the threshold of the recipients should be taken into account also. I am certainly one of those people who have very low tolerance. I think it is a well-known fact hence the reason for this post.

I guess I can safely state that people boast and brag for different reasons. In work interviews, some mild boast and brag can get a hopeful across the competitive line. During school admission interviews, I have heard some parents confused applying for a place in their preferred primary school to presenting their young children as candidates for PhD scholarships. When meeting future in-laws and family, we try to be at our best behavior, naturally. I guess law of the jungle dictates human behavior at the best of times.

But out there in this world, there is a type of people who feel no more enjoyment than talking about themselves - what they had for breakfast, lunch and dinner in the last week ; a minute by minute account of their one week lazy holiday lying on the beach and a detailed description on how they come to the decision to buy a new kettle. YES. I KNOW PEOPLE LIKE THAT. And now you understand why I am writing this post. My way of relieving my headache and earache I guess. Don't get me wrong, I avoid people like this like a plague. Reality is, some are easily avoidable but some others, well, our paths still cross inadvertently. By now, you must wondering just HOW I got to know people like this. And just HOW I manage to know more than 1 of them in this world. On my last count, there are probably half a dozen of them in my life - easily avoidable or not they may be, one experience with them can be traumatic. Minimization is the key, let me tell you.

Then there is another type who intentionally boast and brag to bring on the effects of belittlement or in the lame attempt to. OH YES. I KNOW A FEW OF THEM TOO. These people are pain of all pain in the backsides. I do not tend to avoid them. I just don't find the time for them.

Monkey Faces

2011-11-03T22:33:00.001+11:00

Just a couple more that were unwittingly saved by culprits and discovered by Mum.

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A Little Culprit

2011-11-03T14:07:00.001+11:00

Someone has been playing around with the camera again.

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A Step Closer Yet Vastly Divided

2011-11-02T13:17:00.001+11:00

A decision by UNESCO to admit Palestine as a member state has set off a confrontation between the United States and the United Nations.

The Obama administration swiftly said it would cut off funding for the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organisation after the group voted 107-14 to accept the Palestinian Authority as a full member.

UNESCO's action triggered US laws from the early 1990s that bar Washington from giving money to a UN body that grants membership to Palestine.

US officials said they would block a planned payment of $US60 million ($A56.6 million) due to UNESCO next month. This deprives the body, which focuses on literacy, human rights and the preservation of historic sites worldwide, of 22 per cent of its funding, and could force it to begin laying off employees, diplomats said.

US officials warned that American interests could be damaged if Washington were forced by similar future votes to cut off funding for other international agencies.

The Palestinian Authority approached UNESCO after prospects dimmed for the bid it began in the UN Security Council in September to win full UN membership. The US has said it will veto this proposal.

US State Department spokeswoman Victoria Nuland said the international community's decision was ''regrettable, premature and undermines our shared vision of a comprehensive, just and lasting peace in the Middle East''.

Ms Nuland said the US was aware its interests could be undermined by its decision to withhold money from UNESCO.

''So we need to have conversations with Congress about what options might be available to protect our interests,'' she said.

A long list of pro-Israel members of Congress declared there would be no backing down on the law.

Republican congressman Eric Cantor, the House majority leader, said the UNESCO vote was ''an affront to the international peace process and an impediment to negotiations between the Israelis and Palestinians''.

Palestinian Authority official Yasser Abed Rabbo hailed the UNESCO move as ''an important turning point in Palestinian history.

''It means that the majority of the world supports Palestinians' right to become an independent state and a member of the international community,'' he said.

After the emotional vote at UNESCO's Paris headquarters, one audience member shouted ''long live Palestine'' in French.

''UNESCO deals in science, not science fiction,'' said Israeli ambassador to UNESCO Nimrod Barkan. He said it had ''admitted a non-existent state''.

Among the 107 nations in favour of Palestinian membership were Russia, China, India, France, Greece, Turkey and Brazil. The 14 voting against included the US, Australia, Canada and Germany.

More than 50 countries abstained, including three critical Security Council members - Portugal, Colombia and Bosnia-Herzegovina - which Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas had been courting for months before the UN membership vote.

MCT, AGENCIES, www.theage.com.au

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Sleepovers

2011-10-29T18:24:00.001+11:00

Cousins Harry and Grace came to visit Melbourne and stayed with us for a few days. These photos were taken on the day they were leaving and Aqira was just about to go to school. Hence, her little sad smile says it all.

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Priceless

2011-10-28T21:45:00.001+11:00

I'll let this photo do all the talking.

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Beach Boy

2011-10-28T17:58:00.002+11:00

Fun fun fun.

But not every time the camera appears.

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Elwood

2011-10-27T22:45:00.002+11:00

Melbourne's fickle weather is gradually sorting itself out. The days have lost much of this past winter's straight-to-the-bone chill. Personally, I am finding life here a lot easier as a normal human being now rather than a frozen zombie stuck in a human body.

These days when the temperature gets to about 25 degrees or more on the weekend, we try to get the kids to the beach. They love it, no doubt, after spending the last 6 months cocooned at home and wrapped up in warm woolly jumpers. And most important of all, it must be magical to not have to deal with a grumpy mummy anymore!

However, I realized I haven't got many photos of Miss A with us on the beach. Once we get there, it is like she cannot wait to savor the taste of freedom! She either sprints straight to the sea, or takes her scooter for a carefree venture.

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Dinosaur Madness

2011-10-26T22:17:00.001+11:00

We have been to Scienceworks a dozen times since early this year, most recently to the Explore-a-Saurus exhibition that Master C just cannot get enough of. When we went there the first time, we were at the Explore-a-Saurus section for more than 2 hours. For those of you who haven't been to Scienceworks, it is a superb place to take the kids to experience everything science and by that I mean, from physics to chemistry, sports science to food science. It has something for all ages to enjoy, even for Mums and Dads, Grandpas and Grandmas!! Most of the exhibits are interactive but to spend 2 hours with the dinosaurs alone, the professionally synthesized theropod roar and beautiful crafted sauropod skeleton can get way too much for any homosapien. Not for my 2 and half year old though. Miss A however displayed a sense of boredom after a while, not unlike Mummy really. But Miss A is a very patient Big Sister and incredibly understanding of her little brother many quirks. She is indeed a gem!

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Footy Fun Day

2011-10-26T22:09:00.001+11:00

It was a footy fun day at his preschool so all the kids and teachers got their faces done up. I was very surprised he allowed the paint brush to go anywhere near his face because normally he despises games like this. Well, normally when he is with me anyway. When he is at preschool, I heard from his teachers he is one gorgeous little angel.

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Soccer Graduation

2011-10-25T21:19:00.001+11:00

These photos were taken when C 'graduated' from Term 3. Would you be quite surprise if I say he is really enjoying himself doing it? It is quite incredible to see his progression from a tiny toddler who not only knew nothing about the sport but a child (he was 16 months when he started) who literally just found his feet. I remember he couldn't even understand the coaches' instruction because he only started developing his speech! I practically had to show him exactly what he had to do by my actions. So yeah, Mummy did all the drills, all the kicking, you get the idea. But hubby and I were adamant he takes up soccer because with the sheer amount of energy this rocket boy has, it was one good way he could release it.

Now he will be completing Term 4 at the end of year for his age group. What a journey for this little boy, I must say. We will continue for another year - where he will join a higher level for boys from the age of 3 to 4. He will also be attending kindergarten for 3 year olds next year. How exciting!

Some of you may know that I was very concern about his speech development since he turned 2. It is no longer a huge concern now but from time to time, he still gets a little frustrated when something really gets to him ie. when Big Sister tries to move the positions of his various tank engines from the train tracks.

He has a fair few soccer skills under his belt (belly) now and it is quite amazing how entertaining he can be with a soccer ball!

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Hold the Fire!

2011-10-25T16:52:00.004+11:00

Hold the fire because I am still tinkering with this app!

I am very disappointed with the way the photo of my last post turned out. It first appeared on the blog very tiny so I went on to enlarge which led it looking blur and fuzzy all over the place! Yikes! It was absolutely hideous. As you can see, I have already deleted that photo. I am still working on this new app called BlogPress. It is fast, and great for blogging on the go but sure enough there are quite a number of flaws. Because I blog on the iPad, this app is my only option for now I am afraid. But I think if you want to see the original sized version of the photo, just click on it. Hopefully that works for you. Photo courtesy of Charlotte Clarke as I haven't had a chance to download mine. I think it is a brilliant photo of everyone, especially the kids. We couldn't get them to pose properly but at least most of them were in the photo!

While I am still in the maze of photo tweaking, stories from my world will keep coming. A 'fan' has already reminded me of my ever popular "What Aqira Says" segment. Haha, that's hilarious Mei Yee, thank you for your encouragement!

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Where's the Fireworks?????

2011-10-24T23:39:00.008+11:00

I think this may well be my glorious return to the world of blogging!

For all of you who have been anxiously waiting for this moment (I am so full of myself I know), hopefully I am no longer the subject of disappointment. It has taken a while, I know, but I have finally fixed the bane of my blogging problem and now I am back in action, people! And much appreciation should be extended to to some of you my lovely loyal blog readers (yeah, you know who you are!!!). Your constant complaining, nagging and persistence to get me back online have finally come into fruition so thanks for making me spend countless late nights working on this! I am pleased you can now return to getting your daily fix reading all about my mindless ranting and looking at the cheer-you-up photos. Win-win situation as I was once told!

While I would have loved to continue my ranting and sharing with you what I have been up to since my last post in April, I must disappoint at this point because I do have to go to bed after a deservedly late night celebrating the All Blacks' win on Sunday night. In the meantime, I shall leave you the latest photo taken just on Sunday afternoon at Elwood Beach. It was the perfect afternoon for 4 families celebrating birthdays of 3 dashing gentlemen (hey, who says age has anything to do with it?).

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Diary

2011-04-01T00:19:00.002+11:00

I know I have neglected this blog quite a fair bit. It is mostly to do with the inability to post photos onto blogger with my iPad. There seems to be no solution to this technical issue as yet. Blogger is taking its own sweet time. Either that, I just haven't caught on with the latest gadget to fix this problem myself! I am contemplating switching back to my laptop. But...

I have actually packed the laptop away in the drawer mainly because I don't want a designated workspace for myself at home. Or rather, I don't feel inclined to set up a workspace because I know full well that it will only be invaded by the kids. I used to have one at our previous home when Aqira was little, when she was about the same age as Cashel now. It was extremely annoying to have to put every stationery away; to have to quietly sneak in and out to use the computer and worse, when I was 'discovered', I was outraged by the act of tearing the toddler away from the computer. Now I am a lot wiser. And more apt in managing renegade children when it comes to fun technology, I have decided my iPad will suffice. I like the fact I can carry it around - or rather, I can use it whenever I want, and hide it away when an eager and inquisitive schoolgirl and/or a curious and technology-inclined toddler decide they want to have a crack at creating her own playlist and/or changing security settings with his nimble fingers.

I have tried to just continue writing. But writing a blog without pictures is just not....well, you know what I mean. I am sure that all of you who have been kind enough to follow my blog have found all the recent content rather bland, boring if I may say so myself. But to have to go back to my good old trusty laptop....woah....that's huge.

I know this is going to sound like a blogger personality assassination. But I am thinking I wouldn't mind altering the direction of my blog content to something more personal, more private, more emotionally-driven. DIARY.

Yikes?

I started this blog back in 2004 (OMG) a month before Aqira was born. It was mainly to share my new life as a Mum and a new experience with my first child with close friends and family who live in different parts of the world. The blog changed when we moved from KL back to Melbourne which saw it transformed into story-telling my life with a toddler with no family or close friends by my side for support - like I did back in KL. Whilst I didn't express a lot of the sadness that I experienced when I returned to Melbourne, learning to cope with the role all on my own was very hard. When I got the job at the UNAA, there was of course great relief. But only a mother could comprehend, and empathize, the difficult road only took another turn. I developed a sense of guilt for sending Aqira to childcare at such a tender age. Sure it may well have created the person she is - extremely outgoing, free spirited, fun loving and adaptable and resilient, but...oh how peculiar life can be.

I was very glad the opportunity in India came along. Aqira could have a non-working mum again. The blog became more of a travel diary. I think I posted millions of pictures then - and on a daily basis too! It was a fantastic time and it's funny how something stays with you for life. David and I talk about the amazing adventure we had all the time. Even Aqira still has a lot of beautiful fond memories. Fast forward 2011, how wonderful to look back at the blog and cherish our valuable experience!

Now, with so much more to juggle and a lot less time on my hands, perhaps it is time to move from a photo blog. Since my dad's passing in 2008, my world has almost been turned upside down. I have always known how much he means to me. I have always recognized the mammoth contribution he has in my sense of identity. I have always appreciated his teachings and guidance. Whilst some of the wisdom and knowledge was imparted with a great degree of traditionalism, he had his reasons for it. I very rarely disagreed with him though. Hence, I miss having conversations with him. I miss listening to his advice, although I must say some of those wise words came from archaic origins. I miss absorbing his personal strength through his strong beliefs which mysteriously found its way to deliver sense of confidence to me. I miss reaching for him.

I think it is time I should dedicate my blog to him. Make this a way I could have conversations with him. Seeing my inner thoughts captured word for word, like all the photos posted here in the past, is just my own little way of reliving special times, remembering candid moments, cherishing a distinct memory that doesn't seem to fade away all that easily.

Japan

2011-03-16T21:43:00.005+11:00

Like many of you, I have been following the news and developments in Japan. While the news media do their absolutely best to bring us images and footage of some good news that come out of this heartbreaking event, it is just so hard to forget for a moment what survivors are going through minute by minute, second by second, right this moment as I am sitting comfortably on my favourite sofa typing away on my iPad? The aftermath of the tsunami that hit has overwhelmed my conscience. A few nights ago, I sat watching with David. We watched rescuers moving older persons to safer ground. We watched emergency workers nursing injured men and women in makeshift clinics just metres from rubble and destruction. We watched mums and dads clutching their little children so tight on the move, with older children carrying personal belongings running not far behind. That vision sent shivers down my spine. I sat thinking how I would manage if I am caught in the very same situation?

The tsunami struck Sendai at lunch time on Friday. In a hypothetical situation, I would be at home or out running errands. Cashel would be at pre-school, Aqira at primary school and David would be at work. I am consumed by the feeling of extreme helplessness. I am startled by this imaginary situation I put myself in. Crazy, you'd say but just imagine that right that very moment, there were hundreds and thousands of people in a very similar situation. Young families like mine broken, in split seconds. Young families like mine, is never the same again. It is one thing when one can say goodbye on their very last day on earth. It is another, if someone dear is taken away, by a 10 metre wave, just like that. The current winter weather conditions in Sendai and affected areas are incredibly unforgiving at this time too. With no homes, minimal shelter, lack of food, water and fuel, how are they going to pull through this, I can't help asking myself. Just in the last news update on SBS, there was a short footage of an older couple in their 70s looking for their son who was at his work place when disaster struck. The father climbed up a 3 metre high rubble just under the son's office window and called out his name. His shaky voice didn't get the response he and his wife had hoped. As a mum, I can only imagine what their hearts and minds must be telling them.

Having said that, I have noticed that the Japanese in general are extremely resilient and compassionate. They seem to be managing the current situation calmly and with much self control. I have been told by friends that that is really the core characteristic of the Japanese. I have always known they are incredibly polite, quiet, rather introverted and ever so humble but I am overwhelmed by the way they are managing a disaster of this magnitude. As result, I know I have a thing or two to learn from their attitude under such difficult circumstance.

Now, even before they can comprehend the extent of physical damages and even put to perspective, the extent of reconstruction and redevelopment, they have 4 nuclear reactors which have been confirmed partly and fully damaged. As of today, the government is slowly releasing data of nuclear radiation levels, but judging from public opinion, Japanese themselves are far from contented by the way the government is managing the situation. The threat of nuclear radiation would threaten anyone's sense of calm and patience. To make it even more eerie, it is an invisible killer.

I know Japan will eventually pull through this, as a country. Sooner rather than later, as I imagine the Japanese would be keen to reconstruct their future like they have done in the past. In the mean time, my heart goes out to all the young families over there.

Ted

2011-02-23T16:03:00.003+11:00

After the school, in the car.

AQ: Mummy, I have something to tell you. It is bad. Very bad.
Mum: What is it sweetheart?
AQ: Lucas hit me when he was playing cricket. He was hitting the ball with his bat and the ball just came straight at me and hit my ankle. it really hurts. It's still hurting when I walk.
Mum: OK, I will have a look as soon as we get home. Did Lucas do it on purpose, you think? Did he say sorry?
AQ: He said sorry many times. He looked like he felt really bad.
Mum: I don't think he did it on purpose then. Lucas is a really nice boy so I am sure it was really an accident. And he said sorry which is important. He is one of your good friends so I am sure he didn't mean it.
AQ: I know.
Mum: Did the Yard Duty Teacher check on you when you got hurt?
AQ: Yea, she did. Twice. Then Naomi and Saskia looked after me and took me to the Staff Room to see Mrs Mcrostie. Lucas came too. With Ted.
Mum: Did Lucas go with you too? You see he is so caring! Haha...this is Lucas who asked you to marry him!
AQ: Oh Mummmmm!! And Ted came too.
Mum: Oh Ted too? Does he also want to marry you? Haha!
AQ: Ewwww, no way Mum! I don't want ever want to marry him. He is always...sweaty!
Mum: HAHAHAHAHA.
AQ: When we are lining up, I don't even want him standing behind or in front of me because he is always icky sweaty. I tell him to stand with someone else.

All Talk

2011-02-17T21:43:00.003+11:00

Mum: Who was that you were saying bye to?
AQ: Thats Alexandria, or you can call her Alex. She's my best friend.
Mum: Oh, a new one? First it was Naomi, then Calista, then it was Abbey, was it? I am confused.
AQ: Yea, they all are my best friends. Alexandria is my best best best friend. She is my next door neighbor, you know. On my right.
Mum: I thought Naomi sits on your right.
AQ: I have moved. Next to Alexandria. Naomi is still there. The same seat.
Mum: Why? Did Mrs Mcrostie move you or you moved by yourself?
AQ: She moved me.
Mum: Do you know why? No wait, let me guess. You and Naomi talk too much.
AQ: Well, no.......well, actually.......it's like this. We discuss a lot during Math. We talk about the questions. We give each other lots of ideas.

Billboard

2011-02-12T10:25:00.003+11:00

I have just heard from a dear friend of mine that my blog looks a lot like a mega billboard sign - on a piece of a A4 paper. The fonts on my blog is beyond huge and is utterly hard to read. I have been using the iPad to do all my blogging and as I have lamented previously, it is not quite an easy task. iPad is wonderful and magical in many many ways but lack the ease that one is used to in a PC. To begin with, the fonts look perfectly fine on my screen. I wonder if it is just a hiccup on my friend's screen view (it is a MacBook) or the problem lies within the iPad. I will be very curious to find out how my blog looks on your screen so if you can drop me a line, it will be much appreciated.

Year of the Golden Rabbit

2011-02-03T16:01:00.007+11:00

A very happy Chinese New Year everyone! My family and I would like to wish all of you Good Health and many Happy Days ahead. May the Year of the Rabbit (my year!!!) be one to remember and be thankful for the many beautiful blessings that you have in your life.

Over my neck of the woods (spoken like a true bunny here), celebrations is indeed mild, as it has always been. Gone are the days of celebrating the beginning of a lunar new year with the excitement of waiting and welcoming the arrival of family members at the family home. Like clockwork, I remember distinctly as the blazing Malaysian sun began to set, everyone would have arrived in eager anticipation for the reunion dinner. This is the most important meal for our family, as with most Chinese family. It is the meal where the entire family gathers in the one place at the one time.

I remember all my reunion dinner very fondly, especially those from my early childhood years. I guess it is true that such festivities is most special and most memorable when we were very young. The older one gets, less 'fun' it becomes. As one gets older, reunion dinner carries so much more weight and hence becomes a lot less free-spirited. Quite naturally I guess. Now, reunion dinner is about getting the kids fed on time so they don't starve unknowingly. In recent history, it is about helping my mum getting all the ingredients ready for the big feast. For as long as I can remember, Mum never wanted me in the kitchen. I always got kicked out, no matter how sincere I was. So were my sisters and sister-in-law. None of us are really chef-material and I am sure Mum thought we were more of a nuisance in the kitchen. Mum was very contented assisted by the maids. In my teenage years through my adulthood, I was always entrusted with the task of baby-sitting the kids. All seven of them. My sisters, brothers and their spouses would go out to see their other family members or catch up with their friends, go to the temple or do a final bout of shopping. I was always home with kids. I don't know how I did it but I did! And I enjoyed it at the time. I have always enjoyed it actually Now looking back, perhaps that is why my comfort zone is really when I am with kids. Sure they have all grown up now, the eldest of all is turning 24!!!! And the youngest has turned 17. How time flies. I sure miss them all.

Now that my children is at the ripe age to enjoy Chinese New Year, I am conscious in my efforts not to deny them the joy of the New Year spirit just because we are miles away from my home. At their age, as I fondly reminisce myself at the same age, the spirit of the New Year is really about collecting 'hoong pow' (red packet), counting and summing up the fortune they have amassed, thinking up what new toys to buy with their new found wealth, playing and hanging out with their cousins, and all the treats they can stomach without getting into food disciplinary action by their parents. Sure, in reality Aqira and Cashel do not have cousins of the same age to play 'Tag', 'Hide and Seek' and 'I Spy' with. Having said that, when the big cousins are with their 2 little cousins, they are more than happy to oblige. Thanks to the new millennium, the big cousins also show them the ropes in the matter of Nintendo Wii, Play Station, XBox, YouTube and the rest.

So now I find myself in a position where I have to create traditions for my own family. This really began when I suddenly realised my personal sense of the spirit changed after my father's passing. I didn't prepare myself for the excruciating pain that came when we celebrated Chinese New Year without him. I am pleased I was in Malaysia during the first new year without him. I was with my own family. We all knew how we were feeling and we dealt with it very differently. I needed a rock. Actually I needed more than one. And I was privilege to have them all. Two Chinese New Years have come and gone, all the more reason to create new traditions for my family as well as for my own sake.

It is definitely not on a grand scale but I am pleased I have put up the Chinese New Year decorations at home with quite a bit of help from a junior and a miniature assistant. Aqira chose a gorgeous poster at a quaint but extremely well-stocked shop in Chinatown. The poster is a picture of 2 large rabbits - 1 male and 1 female, and 2 little bunnies - 1 male and 1 female all dressed in beautiful chinese outfits. As she described in her own words, the poster represented "Daddy bunny, Mummy bunny, 1 Aqira and 1 Cashel" And to top it off, the bunnies are holding the Chinese words, "Happy Family". I can't ask for a more heartwarming vision.

In addition, there is a string of electronically-operated mini lanterns which has 3 different settings for its flashing light. That is the most hi-tech I would go with my decorations, by the way. And it looks gorgeous hanging in the patio, especially when the flashing red lights twinkle through the glassed patio doors. David likes it so much he urged me to get more for the entire patio. Oh dear. The husband has been sucked in by the Chinese New Year spirit! But wait! There's more! I have also hung up 2 large red lanterns that were gifts from my mum and dad when we celebrated our first Chinese new year in Hyderabad. The 2 beautiful lanterns are accompanied by a string of intricately decorated red bags which represents money (the chinese are very predictable aren't they?) hung up in a cascading fashion. At the front door, I simply put up a red lantern I have had for years. The house is ooooooozing with New Year spirit!

Last night, being the traditional night for a reunion dinner, we went modernist chinese - we didn't want to cook so we we ordered in. My dear friend Karen who was entrusted with the food (a huge responsibility for night like this) brought a delicious menu of exotic Thai food from the highly reputable Ying Thai. With so much good food, both kids tucked into bed and not much work in the kitchen, we spent the entire night talking...and talking....and boy can we talk!

This morning was naturally less eventful than how it would be in Malaysia. I dressed the kids up in red t-shirts and myself in purple with a tinge of silver (can anyone get the significance?). David had an early start at work so we would have to wait till he gets back this evening to do a proper chinese new year greeting. Just in case you are wondering, children have to greet their parents in the morning of the new year. They do it by wishing their parents a happy new year and in return, they get 'hoong pow'. Chinese people are sticklers for positive and elaborate messages which entail in people, including children wishing each other good fortune, prosperity, good health, happiness and a whole lot of more. Tonight, we'll be having a quiet dinner as Aqira is starting the new school term (Grade 1, believe it or not!) tomorrow so we will all be back to school routine all over again.

The weekend is looking far more festive. One of Aqira's best friends will be celebrating her 6th birthday with a Superhero-themed party this Saturday. My little girl will be going as Supergirl! I am actually excited about it myself. I would love to see the kids in their Superhero outfits. We will be going for a good feed this Sunday at Laksa King, one of my ultimate place to eat in Melbourne. It is a superb Malaysian restaurant without pomp and pretension, and famous for almost everything on the menu. I am salivating just thinkinng about what I am going to have! (And I already know what I am going to have!). To top it all off, my dear friend Jo and her family are here from KL which will sure gives my Chinese New Year celebration a bit more excitement! Kids-friendly plans are also already in place so now, I just need to work on what we'll be doing on Chap Goh Mei. I have already stocked up on small paper lanterns......

That Old Joke

2011-01-25T22:03:00.009+11:00

Mummy: Sweetheart, Naomi's mum just sent me a message. Naomi can't go swimming with us because they are still at her grandparents' house.

A: Oh. Oh well. Maybe she can do it next week. She'll be back from her....her.....

Mummy: Grandparents'.

A: Yeah. Why grandparents, Mum? Why call them grandparents?

Mummy: Well, sweetheart. Think about it. Mummy and Daddy are parents. So Grandmother and Grandfather are....?

A: Old.

Blame It On The....

2011-01-24T22:15:00.004+11:00

I have not been given much attention to my blog for more than a month now, especially in the photos department. Blame it on the iPad. Man, this technology is great particularly for surfing the Internet and lots of it. I surf lying on the sofa. I surf sitting on the deck watching the kids play. I surf while Aqira is swimming.I surf while waiting in the car before school pick up. And I love it when I am surfing in bed. It has certainly replaced reading a book or a magazine!! And don't get me started on its brilliance when it comes to online shopping. Oh yes.

When it comes to blogging and to a lesser, getting on Facebook though, I can only reveal that the experience has so far been a nightmare. Posting photos is an ordeal. Typing is a circus. And to do the editing, styling and the 'proper' writing I used to do, it is quite simply a tragedy. But I haven't yet given up just yet. Fellow iPad users have proclaimed that it really is just a matter time before all the necessary tools get sorted out and I will hopefully get the hang of the technology. Hopefully.

In the meantime, the blog will be a lot less colorful than before. In fact, it is going to be very dull especially with the serious lack of photos! The change of technology will most inevitably lead this blog to another direction. Perhaps it is not all that bad after all. I have been thinking of a change in content for some time now and I think iPad might have just shown me the way.

Just Hit Him

2011-01-11T14:34:00.004+11:00

When Aqira was little, I used to say to her, "Well, just hit him back," whenever she runs back to me crying after a child, normally a boy, has knocked her aside at the climbing wall or has pushed her off the queue at the slide. I used to watch her like a hawk at the playground, even when I am in the company of my group of mums and their kids. I rarely engage in lengthy conversations with them, primarily I wanted to make sure no pushing or shoving, kicking or sneering, let alone punching and any form of childish aggression goes unnoticed by me. I wanted my child to be able play without any fear or trepidation that a dominant personality will hurt their self-esteem in anyway. I believed - at the time - that all children are delicate little flowers. I was a new mum then.

Now, as Cashel turns 21 months, I find myself standing on the other side of the fence. The fence which other mums or dads turn around to their kids and say "Well, just hit him back".

Cashel is going through a period of what I call 'thuggish' behavior. Sure, you heard the experts officially label it 'Terrible Twos'. I never experienced 'Terrible Twos' with Aqira so I am looking at the stage Cashel is now with some doubts, some fear and lots of questions. It is really as if I am new in this peculiar area of child development. Sure, Aqira had her moments but with Cashel, it is a whole new different ball game altogether.

In the last month or so, after we got back from our holidays, Master Clark has developed the tendency to push another child, or show his displeasure by yelling at a child. Initially, I was amazed by what I had witnessed but I soon felt disbelief and anger. "My son? My baby pie?".

Now, I am watching closely. I need to know what the triggers are. The real situation is that he is not always unruly, thuggish and aggressive. In fact, he is not at all aggressive but is very much a gentle soul with a sensitive nature. And I can't say he is unruly either as he takes great pleasure in following the rules that the family has set up. In fact, he copes very well with discipline at home and thrives in the environment than Aqira did at the same age. It is almost like he yearns for it, and he out of sorts when the structure is vaguely lost. But I say that is because of his nature. He enjoys stability, and finds changes challenging.

While I realize his inability to adapt to constant change somehow interferes with his 21 month-old brain network which has led to the main cause of his current behavior, I still have to find answers to the reasons why certain children cause him to act up. He only picks on certain children. I used to think he only picked on little ones for obvious reasons. But this sub-theory is not substantiated because I have seen him not playing very nicely with bigger kids - girls and boys. He would fearlessly pushed a bigger child while in the next second he would be playing very nicely with another child of the same gender and similar size. I have seen him innocently enjoying playing with a group of older and bigger children while expressing his temper and thuggish behavior with 1 particular child from the group. Obviously, something this particular child has triggered something in him that he figured within himself only aggression can help get through the situation. And I can safely say that the child is never unkind or even rude to him. He or she just play like any others but Cashel would go up and give him or her the unexpected push that 101% of the time brings the child to tears. Bigger or smaller kid - same consequence. And it is not like he enjoys watching the child cry. He doesn't give out a devilish laugh when tears are heard as a result of his unsavory behavior. He appears awkward upon watching the scene, which would be closely followed by my or David's presence by his side, reprimanding him calmly. We can tell he feels something wrong watching the child cries but he cannot yet do much to salvage the situation. He can't yet speak - so even as we teach him to say sorry, he has no inclination to learn the word. Instead we have asked him to kiss or hug the child, which he knows means something endearing, sweet, loving and wins a whole load of smiles and ovation from his mother. But I can tell he is still not yet willing to say apologize this way to all the children. Why I ask myself? What is it that makes you so mad?

My research is still ongoing. Will return with more discovery. In the meantime......

Reflect

2011-01-07T22:37:00.004+11:00

There is a tendency to write a list this time of the year. Frankly, I have given up doing that ages ago. I do believe in self-improvement but I don't need a particular date to lead me that direction. My self-improvement process goes through a cycle, I suppose. Something comes up and I work on it, like cook better non-Asian food, for example. The good thing about this process is my Moroccan dish comes up pretty good, but the downside is David eventually wished I would cook more Asian instead.

I do a lot of reflecting this time around though and while I used to look back at old photos and diaries in the past, now I find myself relying a whole lot more on Facebook! It is fantastic in every sense of the word. 2 kids and a high maintenance husband - who has time? I admit i make Facebook my tool to reach out to the outside world (most mums get it) and definitely it is one of the main ways I communicate with friends and family near and far. It is so easy now, you must agree, to stay in touch. A friend just posted photos of her wedding from 4 years ago and another posted photos of her 2 boys after a long hiatus and another posted a picture of her 22nd week pregnancy scan. How amazing, I thought to myself, that in one computer screen I looked into the past, the current and the future! What a privilege.

I know there are a lot of Facebook cynics out there. Personally, I am careful with how I use it too but in general, as long as one keeps their pages decent, it is all harmless. And in my opinion, it is in the age group. Quite humorous but true. I have in my friends list, friends of my generation of course but I also have young 'friends' who I have come to know in my previous work. And suffice to say, my young friends have made quite a lot of interesting postings, some incredibly creative, some utterly worrying. Sometimes I loom at their postings and wonder what would Aqira and Cashel's postings be next time. Maybe Facebook will be buried by then, but something else is sure to take its place.

Aqira is on school holidays at the moment and we figure this is the time she uses some time to learn how to use the PC and inadvertently, she is trying out the iPad as well. Yesterday, we spent some time watching YouTube together with Cashel. We discovered Pat & Stanley or Dog & Hippo, the hilarious French animated cartoon. But after a while, I let her took rein of what she was watching while I made lunch. At the back of my mind, I didn't stop worrying. Now I understand what parents of older children here have to worry about. The censorship on TV programs and movies is almost next to nothing. Sure they are rated and it is up to the parents to decide if their children is allowed to view them but there are still loophole like access to YouTube.

I guess this my cue to get my mind thinking about the near future - my kids and computers, my kids and social networking sites, my kids and video sharing sites, and let's not forget tweeeeterrrrrrr.

Urban Myth

2010-12-26T11:14:00.005+11:00

I am 35, and my favorite Christmas memory is still my Christmas holiday with my mum and dad in Singapore when I was 12. I still remember the exact hotel we stayed at. Sure, it was a very nice hotel and for a 12 year-old, it was unusually large as well. The golden staircase was beaming in ostentatious glow, the extraordinarily large chandeliers looked strangely out of this world and the smell...well, I have a thing for the smell of a hotel. A topic that is hard to kick off but let me just say this is yet another quirky sensory trait that I have come to possess over years of practicing the art of travel.

The most poignant part from the memory of that Christmas was definitive of what I call my family's favorite pastime and quite correctly define most Asian's favorite hobby -shopping. For the first time, my mum and dad allowed me the freedom of shopping alone, by myself, on my very own in the material heaven called Orchard Road. I still recall quite clearly, we had just returned to our room after a late breakfast. Dad was on the phone with some business associates while mum finally found a moment to try on her new shoes she bought just the night before. I sat watching the TV but got bored quickly. In the mean time mum finished trying on her purchases and announced she was going to have a bubble bath while waiting for dad to finish his endless calls. "No way!!" I must have said to myself. "I would have to wait forever to leave this room! There must be a million Hello Kitty and Little Twin Stars stuff out there!"

I don't actually remember what I said to my mum but I remember the moment she handed me some Singapore dollars which I swiftly stuffed into my sling bag. I don't remember if I even goodbye to my dad who was still on the phone, but I remember taking the lift down to the majestic lobby, a doorman waved goodbye with his white- gloved hand and off I went. I don't remember exactly what I bought but it wouldn't surprise me if I bought more Little Twin Stars, more Hello Kitty. It definitely wouldn't be a surprise at all if I spent all the money mum had
given me!

Whatever else that happened to this shopping expedition is quite literally an urban myth. I wish I remember more of it especially the scent of the hotel that sets off my very odd but distinctive sensory ability to this day.

The Nest

2010-12-16T14:37:00.006+11:00

We got back from our family holidays exactly a week ago, and as Christmas is just around the corner, I am manically trying to get everythng ready. There is soooooo much to do!!! While I dearly missed the comfort of my own home during those 2 weeks, I can't keep reminiscing the amazing time we had. We packed our days to the brim, physically exhausted by the intense scheduling of social events and a very unhappy toddler.

To kick off our annual family holidays, Cashel kicked up the biggest fuss on the plane heading towards Singapore. It was an unpleasant 8 hour flight. By the time we got to our first destination which was Penang, I was very very exhausted. A pounding migraine escorted me as I was leaving the arrival hall walking towards the loving embrace of my mum and sister. I wasn't looking or walking straight.I knew I was stuffed. On the wayq to the hotel, I said to my sister, "I have to throw up in your car. But don't worry, I have a bag"

Luckily, the newly refurbished Lone Pine Hotel was a gorgeous place to recover and recuperate, especially important I had to look half normal for Fee Ming's big day. The kids loved the hotel. We did too. It is unlike anything along the Batu Ferringhi strip. There was no glittering chandelier, no golden staircases, no marble floor either. Instead, there were plenty of spunk. The room was immaculate, spacious and airy. We enjoyed it so much there was a discussion in staying on a few more nights after the wedding. But we have locked in plans with family and friends, so we had to keep moving on.

When we got to KL, things got a whole lot better for Cashel. He finally found his comfort zone in his kai ma's house although he was still grizzling at odd times of the day. The thing with my son is, once he loses his routine, he loses his mojo. At his Kai ma's house, he got some of his mojo back. Only just. Phewwwweee. We stayed with Theresa and Eric, the kids's godparents at their stunning new condo near KLCC. We were very pampered, very spoiled, and yeah, we feel so very loved. And we just hope the super turbo charged energy zipping through the place hasn't put them off having us back again.

Alas, Universal Studios in Singapore was our last destination and it was a fantastic way to finish the holidays. After a phenomenal festive combination of a wedding, a school reunion, family gatherings, birthdays and shopping, Singapore was like the post holiday vacation we had to have. It was all about fun, food and no frills with Theresa and Mei Ling giving this trip the much appreciated girly fun. I saw a couple of very very old friends - Christine and Charlie, unfortunately Nicole couldn't make it (my fault really for not organizing earlier!). Also it was amazing to see Claudia and her kids who have all settled into the Singapore way of life after her husband was posted over from Hyderabad.

I didn't visit my father's resting place in Penang's Kek Lok Si Temple this time. I didn't want to and I knew I couldn't. I knew I couldn't bear to step foot on the whitewashed marbled floor on level 3. Even the drive towards the temple makes me feel very ill. I guess the pain is still too much. To be frank, I still can't bring myself to relive that very day. The journey right from the start from our family home reminds me of me in
my darkest hour - the day I felt nothing but excruciating pain. That was the lowest moment of my life - it was like any sense of happiness has left my being. I would rather use my mind to relive his memories. I feel a lot closer to him this way. in fact, some days I trick myself into thinking he is not far away and that he is listening to my thoughts. Some days I feel he is just there, looking out for me and the kids.

Going back to the family home was not easy either but it was more pleasant than visiting the temple. At home, I saw his Chinese art collection, his favorite china vases and his golf sets. Mum still keep their bedroom the way it was before. She still put a towel on his pillow - because he used to hate the smell of his hair gel on his pillow. So he used to sleep on the towel over the pillow. His belts are still hanging on the brass hooks. His toothbrush still in the bathroom.

I am back nesting at home now. There are just so much to remember about this trip - the many happy moments and the one deep sadness that I still carry with me.

FM & KM

2010-12-04T07:14:00.000+11:00

Penang was in full swing last weekend where my dear friend Fee Ming's wedding to Kean Meng was held. The wedding was particularly special to many of us who were childhood friends and school mates back in Alor Setar. As the bride and some of us also went to the same college as the groom, many of the guests were also long lost friends from those crazy yet exciting years.

Amongst the guests at the wedding were of course, the ever so lovely and ever so charming members of THE 10 - the 10 of us girls who are friends since primary school all through to secondary school!!It is amazing how we are still in touch with each other after all these years apart. I haven't seen a few of them for more them 10 years! It is equally amazing how we have remained so incredibly close to one another as we have been living separate lives away from each other and gone through our adulthood apart (we are spread across 3 continents in 6 cities around the world!).

I truly think it was those growing pains in our primary and secondary school years that set a strong foundation for our beautiful friendship. Despite all the years apart, despite the distance that separated us, despite the absence from each others' life events, we went back to being the giggly girls in the St Nicholas Convent school yard. On the beautiful evening of November 27th, I felt 'revived' and 'refreshed' and literally, YOUNG once again.

Personally, I can only wish we will have another reunion like this one. I think the members of The 10 agree with me wholeheartedly. I believe I have 2 in the books, if I may say so out loud!

Once again, congratulations to the new Mr and Mrs Wong - take care of each other - and enjoy your many years ahead.

FM & KM

2010-12-04T07:04:00.010+11:00

Love y'all!!!!

XOXOXOXOXO

Love y'all!!!!
HUGS!!!!

The 10 reunited.
(Note to Ying Cheng: While you couldn't make it, we could truly feel your presence. Not to worry, all these photos are dedicated to you!! Just be patient with us!)

As usual. Mucking around. Just like the old school days.
Get ready for the camera already!

Amboi, amboi.....masih tak ready ni.....

Magdalene Lim still telling someone off....typical!

Soooooooo proud of her job!

It's a done deal!!!!

Mr & Mrs.

Sweetheart's Sweet Day

2010-11-23T08:16:00.000+11:00

Our little girl is 6!!!

And it was a partyyyy!!!

The Chef

2010-11-22T16:44:00.007+11:00

We saw this recipe being introduced on Junior Masterchef so for the first time everrrrr.....my little girl took over the kitchen to prepare a simple meal for mum and dad.

Everybody -- awwwwww.....

Presenting - - French style green vegetables

"Oh Daddy...."

You did well for your first ever dish my sweethearttttt!!!!

Guess Who?

2010-11-12T14:10:00.003+11:00

I was flabbergasted when I saw the latest photo of this actor.

Can you guess who he is?

So who do you think he is??

It is Neville Longbottom!!!!

(Real name: Matthew Lewis. Good, so now you know!)

Halloween

2010-11-11T14:16:00.004+11:00

Aqira attended her first Halloween party - all by herself at her best friend Saskia's house which was incidentally turned into a haunted house on the eerie evening on October 31. She went as Aqira the Friendly Witch - mainly because she didn't want her face painted in white ghostly powder, red blood stains and black ugly dots. I did try! But she said, "I look ugly Mum. I don't want to look like a scary witch" so after a brief discussion (6 year olds these days!! All about making consensus!) she finally agreed to go as a happy, fun-loving witch!

Just before we went to pick up Aqira from Saskia's house, David and I decided to dress Cashel up for the mere fun of it just because we have a spare wizard's hat. His skeleton costume is really his own pyjamas which glows in the dark! Perfect for Halloween, I'll say!!! But as you can imagine, at 19 months, he wants nothing to do with it.

The Day Has Finally Come

2010-11-09T21:35:00.008+11:00

Our very tame hen's night began in the afternoon where we got our much craved for and highly deserving body massages.

At Hairy Little Sista (you got to love the name!) for drinks and a 'very important meeting' before we head out for dinner.

At Izakaya Den. Food from heaven.

A cheesy grin from me!

I just couldn't contain my silly face as I suddenly noticed the lead singer of a band walking passed us. So embarassing!!

Mummies sans kids for the day. Those smiles don't lie!!!!

Rohini, Val and I.

Managed to grab the bride for a nano second for a quick shot.

The Colette Dinnigan dress is stunning!

FOOD.

The groom and his little niece.

Happy to have you back, my dear!!!!!!!!!!

OK, one picture of us just isn't enough.

Men mucking around.

I don't really know why I am looking so stern. I think I was hoping Seb would hurry and take a photo already!!!

Games Boys Play!

2010-11-08T17:05:00.002+11:00

My driver!

Training for the World Cup!

Eat Play Love

2010-10-23T11:50:00.003+11:00

Wait up Sienna!

Whoopsssssieee!!!

ANZAC Biscuits

2010-10-18T14:06:00.008+11:00

Lucky girl got Granny to teach her how to make ANZAC biscuits.

Mummy's favourite!!!

"I hope you didn't spit in there!"

"No I didn't! See? I can show you I didn't"

"Farr can have a taste too!"

A Wiser Man

2010-10-17T10:48:00.007+11:00

Still a little unsure about candles.

"Just a little bite, Mummy"

Happy Birtday Daddy

This birthday 'message' - -
- - nothing symbolises your life better other than a Blackberry.

Happy Birthday Honey!!!

Soccer Action

2010-10-15T10:17:00.002+11:00

He started soccer recently and in the company of so many soccer balls, the boy seems to be in his natural habitat!! And in his next lesson, he will be wearing his new soccer jersey! Now that gets Mummy excited!!!!

Smooch!

2010-10-09T21:21:00.005+11:00

Gave the boy a haircut a day before this photo was taken. Didn't think it was a good snip after seeing it in photos so I went home that evening and snipped off another inch or so. Someone is looking a bit more grown up as a result.

Father and son were busy kissing each other while waiting for lunch. Boys!

And big sister masterminded a major kiss which also involved major head banging!

OUCH!!

Boy not happy. Girl is.

Love these candids.

Boy didn't like the mucking about in front of the camera. "Take a proper picture already!"

"And where's my lunch?????"

Pompoms

2010-10-06T15:01:00.004+11:00

No, she doesn't bring those pompoms whenever we go out for lunch (although she would really love to!). We were just about to head to a cheerleading-themed birthday party.

So she thought it wasn't a bad idea to practise a cheerleading routine before the party.

But she couldn't stop laughing at herself!

And the perfect dress for the occasion too. Thanks KAI MA! She only got to wear this dress for the very first time!

Alfresco

2010-10-05T14:55:00.004+11:00

I complain about Melbourne's long and horrible winter quite a bit. It has been a dreadfully long one and things get very complex when there are 2 kids to entertain in the middle of a cold, wet windy day. The weather is so much more bearable now. Temperature rose up to almost 24 degrees in the last 3 days and we can actually see the sun! With the warmer evenings, we are able to go out on the deck and enjoy alfresco dining for a change.

Eating alfresco style also means it is so much easier to clean!! Yippeee for that!!!

My sister stayed with us for almost a week which was super fun especially for the kids! She helped me clean up the deck area which I have neglected due to the dreadful weather! We didn't get to dress up the deck with more greenery but I definitely got some fantastic ideas from her. Maybe she'll come back for another week and do the landscaping, eh? So whaddaya say Sis????

Look Out

2010-10-04T15:23:00.002+11:00

It was the Council's once a month lawn mowing routine again. My boy was fascinated by the huge piece of lawn mowing machinery the lady gardener used and he had a great view of the proceedings!

Ooops! He found me!!!

Museum Curator

2010-10-03T18:46:00.005+11:00

During the school holidays, I took the kids to the State Library where they had quite a number of interesting programs for kids of different ages. Of course, my daughter was rather fascinated by the place called the library ("Where do ALL the books come from?) and the sort of work librarians do ("Do they get to read ALL these books?). She asked so many questions to the point I gave up on answering!!

Consequently one quiet evening, she decided to set up her very own museum with her beloved stuff animals and called it The Fluffy Animal Museum with her as curator. Her dress sense proved she might just be appropriately outfitted as one.

The prized exhibit.

Gorgeous!

2010-09-24T13:01:00.003+10:00

I love Hermione. But I love Emma Watson even more. I love the young smarty pants she once played. And I simply enjoy watching her as she grew up in each Harry Potter instalment. And now, with The Deathly Hollows all wrapped up, she has evolved into a gorgeous young lady who seems to have both her feet beautifully grounded and her head nicely screwed on.

Isn't she just gorgeous?

And what a stunning dress too!

Laughing

2010-09-23T07:30:00.006+10:00

I was just showing David one of the home videos I took of him playing with Cashel when the little boy sitting on my lap watching it couldn't contain himself!

Bumming Around

2010-09-22T07:52:00.008+10:00

It's school holidays!!!

Or rather...

Is it school holidays? Already? Yikes.

Constantly need to burn this little girl's abundant energy!

The Monkey on the monkey bar.

Natural habitat, I should say.

As for this little boy....

...enough said.

I don't know what's with this sticking-tongue-out business.

My sweetheart. She really is.

And as we were leaving the park, we saw a Mama Duck taking her ducklings for a walk!

They stopped suddenly and hid amongst the grass when they heard some dogs barking close by. I was particularly mesmerised by Mama Duck's instinctive act of protecting her ducklings.

So we quietly followed them. I think they were just heading back to the creek nearby.

What a beautiful sight!

And to think I was walking my 'ducklings' too!!!

A Splendid Moment

2010-09-21T09:00:00.004+10:00

Even at this age, the 2 of them have already started doing what siblings do - mainly fighting for the same toys and annoying each other. The main suspect is usually the little boy, who just enjoys going up to his sister - snatches her toy, ruins her game and picks on her snacks. Big sister has been amazingly patient with her annoying little baby brother though. I have often seen her trying to coax him out of destroying her game by speaking gently to him. Or tempt him away from her snacks by giving him something else. What a diplomat!!

And some days, when little brother is at his best behaviour, a splendid moment emerges.

Happy!

Sweetness!!!!

Laksa Maniacs!

2010-09-19T13:36:00.007+10:00

True to our kampung roots and being the Laksa Maniacs we are, Mag & I took the kids to Laksa King to show these Aussie kids of ours REAL YUMMY FOOD. For some of you who may not know, Laksa King has moved to a new site. Still in Flemington, and is just around the corner from its previous dilapidated arcade location. The new Laksa King is huge and looks like it could sit about 60 people at any one time. It's tastefully decorated too with simple yet dashing timber furniture, bamboo trees that give the space a lively fresh atmosphere and lots of natural light. Feels a lot like alfresco dining or in our kampung terms, mamak-style!

You'll sense the food is pretty good by watching how the place packs up very early in the day. We were there early and was packed at 12:11pm. I have been there on a late Sunday afternoon and for an early lunch during the week, the place was equally crowded each time. Mag and I each ordered the Assam Laksa and shared a Belachan Kangkong (how kampung can we get?) The portion is so generous that even after we were done with both dishes, we couldn't try other on the menu even though we sooooo wanted to!! And let me tell you, Mag and I can really eat!!!

Roti Canai Boy.

Sleepy Eyes.

The Mums.

The Daughters.

We copied the girls because we said to ourselves, "Look at them! Like us?"

So we got Aqira to snap the mums imitating their daughters! In the meantime, the 2 boys were playing with toy cars and have no interest whatsoever in photos - whatever!

So....we took a video of them instead.

Playtime.

Sucky weather. Stucked indoors. Sorry kids.

Snack time.

"Eh Cashel! How did your apple get on to the kitchen bench???"

Cupboard

2010-09-17T12:58:00.006+10:00

Just one of those 'challenges' of having a curious toddler at home. I have been reminding Aqira that she must remember to close the toilet door so Cashel can't get in to 'explore' the toilet. But a couple of days ago, she left it wide open. Just as we were about to leave for school in the morning, Cashel had gone missing. Sure enough, he was exploring the toilet. I got very furious at both of them. There was a bit of yelling from my part. And lots of crying from both kids. Anyway, a hell-ish drive in hell-ish speed in one hell of a car to school later, I returned home to lie flat on the sofa so my heart rate would drop back to its regular beat. When she came home from school, she still felt very remorseful. She handed me a picture she drew in class. It was a drawing of her crying and Cashel with no clothes on. A correct depiction of the moment after I discovered him in the toilet when I quickly took off all his clothes and threw them in the washing machine straightaway. Then on the side of drawing, she wrote, "Sory Mum. We love you. You are best Mum".

Hugs and cuddles later, I reminded her again but this time in a gentle and very (very) loving voice. So she did make the trip to the toilet (with a some trepidation I am sure) and closed the door afterwards. So I told her I was very pleased with her that she remembered and she's being very responsible. She replied, "Yes, Mum. I keep telling myself to remember to do it. I keep all of it in the cupboard of my mind so I don't forget"

8 Weeks

2010-09-15T14:04:00.004+10:00

George Michael has been jailed for 8 weeks in the UK for dangerously driving after taking illegal substances which resulted in a car crash into a shopfront in Hampstead, North London. He has also been banned from driving for 5 years and ordered to pay fines of 1,250 pounds. However, newspaper reports say he could be released within a month.

This news has come as no surprise to me. He has openly and publicly admitted to taking drugs. He even spoke and joked about it during his Melbourne concert in March this year. He told us, the audience "I am the best f**king operating drug addict in the world"

For me, it is quite a sad story of a superstar. I have been one of his biggest fans for years and years. Whilst his image has changed manifold (and appropriately so!), the soul of his songs hasn't. Even now, I can still get completely lost by his voice and the words of his songs. When we saw him live in March, he still has everything that made him superstar. Yes, well, he did put on a bit of weight and losing his mind (kept calling Melbourne "Sydney" until someone backstage reminded him) but his music is certainly not as volatile, fickle and tragic.

For someone who truly adores his music, I sure hope this (short) jail term is the ultimate wake-up call. I really wish desperately that he could come back with just one more album. Seriously. One More Try.

School Work

2010-09-14T13:56:00.002+10:00

Can't help it. Just got to share with you guys a funny bit I read in Aqira's school work. This was written back in May this year.

On the weekend, I went too (to) the mama-mai (mama mia) shoo (show) with my mum and Cissi (Chrissie). I had a (an) iscrim (ice cream) and I had a mesy (messy) fes (face).

Just the Kids and I

2010-09-13T10:00:00.006+10:00

Unfortunately Daddy had to miss out on the day. And a beautiful Saturday it was too. First real sign that spring is finally here. Well almost. Today, Melbourne is back with gloomy grey skies, heavy rain clouds and chilly winds. The sun popped out from time to time but nothing like what we had yesterday.

I took the kids to a new cafe & bookshop in Carlton called Teatime & Tales, a quaint and quirky little place on Rathdowne Street mainly targeted at the 'mother & baby' market. The menu is pretty amazing - full of delightful organic goodies. The menu itself is made out of children's storybooks like Cinderella and Jack & the Beanstalk. Furnished by comfy chairs and loungers, toys (not a lot but I was told they are getting some new ones!) and as stated on the menu, pillows for nursing mothers are also available - just ask the friendly staff! A little bit of The Westin Hotel in Rathdowne? Not quite. It is really a simple place with a simple theory. And from my observation, a simple group of clientele as well. A place where mothers can enjoy a hot cup of cappuccino (although I must say chai latte is definitely more the scene here!) while kids can play and entertain themselves. I had the Eggs Florentine and the kids had cheese sandwiches (sourdough, naturally!). Food was excellent and very wholesome. There was no sausages and ham on the menu (much to Aqira's disappointment but Mummy's delight!).

We were lucky we got the courtyard all to ourselves as the cafe inside was getting a bit cramp. The courtyard is set up with a marquee and the beautiful Saturday sunshine warmed it up for us it felt so cozy sitting inside. My little boy was happy roaming around in the courtyard and my little girl sat quietly reading books, checking out some toys and taking photos. Bliss!! (We can definitely go back again kids!)

A rare moment of bliss. A relaxed mummy.

Waiting for our lunch. Cashel thought he'll just try this entree.

Following lunch, we took a leisurely walk up Rathdowne St to check out some shops, amongst them, Belki, a place I love to go to when I need to buy unique (and practical) presents. The whole strip along Rathdowne St was very busy that day. Every cafe and shops was buzzing. There were people everywhere. Everyone was very friendly - must be the weather! I loved it. Spring weather brings out the best buzz in Melbournians, I reckon! And of course, while I was enjoying the atmosphere, my personal girl buzzer kept reminding me we haven't yet been to the park.......

.../..and of course, the Rathdowne St Park was buzzing as well.

Fun for all.

HAHAHAHA!

I think Cashel ate some tan bark!

The Princess

2010-09-12T08:42:00.003+10:00

Sometimes I indulge in my imagination, sit down with a cup of coffee and think how I would love to do a documentary on just the things my daughter say and do.

She's funny especially when she gets creative with that little head of hers. She's sensitive and kind. She's entertaining for sure, particularly when she's politically incorrect. She's thoughtful and caring. She's respectful and very astute. Her words and thoughts can be too grown up for her own good sometimes. She's utterly charming and knows quite well how to use it. She's extremely fun-loving and adventurous.

David and I constantly talk about how to bring her up. How as in development strategies. How as in parenting methods. How as in a game plan. She's already at an age where we can see she has started to develop her very own personality. But this personality can also easily be changed and swayed by influences. She's now attending school where it's a great place to learn good things and also a good place to learn bad things. She's a group of good friends in class. She's got a fantastic grade teacher - one of those who is put on this Earth to teach and guide young children. While it is comforting to know she's under a brilliant educator now, I am nervous as she goes into Grade 1 next year wondering if the next teacher will be just as great. I can only hope for the best.

Thank you Mrs McRostie for your dedication!

Mini Man in Black

2010-09-10T17:28:00.001+10:00

I don't know why I've been dressing him in black these days. Perhaps the Melbourne winter has truly converted me. The Melbourne cold has always been known to brutally transform one's wardrobe into monochromatic selection of outfits. Realistically, it is easier. And when confronted by the fickle 4 seasons in a day, even the little kiddies have to adapt their wardrobe to suit the temperament of the weather!

As we mothers know full well, shopping for boys' clothes is nothing like shopping for girls'. No variety, no fun, no joy and so boring. As far as the pecking order of children's clothes shopping goes, shopping for winter outfits for boys is the lowest of the low. Sure, it is not like there's nothing exciting out there but shopping for winter clothes is to me, shopping for merely a season. And in Melbourne, while the winter can be bitter, it lasts for at worse, 3 months. Worst still, the cold could just come and go for another month or so. While there are some gorgeous outfits to splurge on, I have to remind myself growth spurt of children this age is nature's way of making mothers make practical choices out of clothes shopping.

Having said all that, toys is a different thing all together! While I know of many doting mothers who have no doubt that toys for their girls is just one of their sinful purchases, I personally enjoy toy shopping with Cashel, a whole lot more than I do (and did) with Aqira. And boys' toys are just....well, just so much more fun, practical and educational.

My boy and Chloe.

I love the robot.

Kedah 4EVER

2010-09-08T13:59:00.003+10:00

Her school organised a Footy Day recently and everyone had to wear colours of their footy team or other football code. She asked if she could wear her daddy's Socceroos (soccer) or Wallabies (rugby) scarf but we decided against it. She would only return home from school without it. We didn't have any Socceroos or Wallabies t-shirts in her size so we dug deep into all our closets and found this great t-shirt in Cashel's. Bought it back in Malaysia last year, together with a Hijau Kuning (Yellow Green) polo shirt for Daddy. Yes, we are passionate Kedah football team supporters even Daddy!

~~~Kedah!~~~Kedah pantang kalah~~~ (Theme song playing in my head now)

She loved it. She thought she looked pretty cool in a t-shirt no one else has! The girls in class were not fazed though as most don't really have a footy team that they support. So most turned up in their older brothers' t-shirts and scarves. The boys were a little curious about this 'Kay Dah' soccer team. Obviously they haven't heard of it. So when I picked her up from school, I asked how the day went. I was interested if anyone teased her about her t-shirt.

Mummy: How was your day, sweetheart?
AQ: Good. You didn't come see me play footy with George and Lucas!
Mummy: Oh, sorry sweetheart. How was it?
AQ: Good!
Mummy: Did Lucas and George say anything about your shirt?
AQ: Yes.
Mummy: And?
AQ: They said, "What's Kay Dahhh?". So I said, "It's KE-DAH". And they said, "Whatever. What is it?" I said it's my koong-koong's football team.
Mummy: Oh, OK. What did they say?
AQ: I didn't actually say koong-koong because they don't know what it means so I said it's my grandfather's team.
Mummy: And what did they say?
AQ: Nothing. They said, "Oh, then that's cool." They only like (Richmond) Tigers. They don't know much else.

Market Day

2010-08-23T10:25:00.011+10:00

Mathilda's Market, Flemington Market.

Karen, Yen & I were on a mission last weekend. Whilst we all had different things what we wanted to seek out, we knew exactly what we had in mind. These markets are where you go when you want the most lovingly created and exquisitely handmade beautiful kids stuff. In Knightsbridge, they call it bespoke. A bit too laa-dee-dah but for most of us, the genteel word custom-made works just as well. Fortunately, the prices are not seriously over the top. Here you'll find some of the most original clothing, accessories, furnishings and toys for your little ones. And of course in Melbourne - where green is in and everyone knows what climate change is all about - is where you'll find the best range of eco toys and organic clothing.

One of the interesting things I got for Cashel at the market is a toy car - a speedster - made entirely out of bamboo. And to match, my car-crazy boy also got a pair of winter pants also made from bamboo! Bought Aqira a couple of gorgeous custom-made tee shirts and organic cotton tops but to my little girl, the best thing that came out of this market day with us was her curly hair and painted pink nails. A hair salon called Candy Hair was there to promote their beauty pampering services which specialise in children's parties! Party in a hair salon - you know, dress ups, makeovers and the rest! Probably not the kind of thing I would like for my 5 and a half year old but perhaps in the near future, when these children become "tweens", it is not an impossible idea. I am just thinking by then, as most parents would have exhausted all party ideas available to them, this may just be another way to do it. Kids these days. *roll eyes*

Karen, Dylan and Yen.

Post shopping, post Malaysian lunch and latte on the way.

She loved her makeover, but it was hard getting a photo. So here's one while she was eating her dessert when she momentarily forgot I was trying to chase her for a photo!

Cute as a button this one!!!

Had enough of paparazzi.
"Aiya, let Aunty Ann have a good look at your cute little teeth!!!"

Dylan wants Mummy.

Dylan found Aunty Ann's face quite hilarious. That, or we are bonding. Thanks for the picture, Aqira!

Had a spectacular weekend. Saturday with the family and shopping for a brand new bike for daddy in time for Father's Day and Sunday with these wonderful ladies. Just perfect. And as Melbourne's winter slowly retreats, they'll be more smiles, more fun to be had and definitely more photos to come on this blog!

Park Life

2010-08-22T09:57:00.001+10:00

It's that Little Boy with Girly Wispy Hair Again

2010-08-15T13:20:00.005+10:00

Loves robots and rockets. You just gotta see the rest of his room.

Salvador Dali.

He thought it was funny but Mummy didn't think so!

Tampering with things in his sister's bedroom. Always a lot more fun.

And a lot more enjoyable. Especially when she's not home.

The F Word

2010-08-11T13:50:00.005+10:00

Mummy! Mummy! I know the F word! I know the F word!!!! It is FART.

Tinted Kitchen Windows

2010-08-10T17:28:00.003+10:00

I have seen teenage lovers kissing on top of the slide. I have seen alleged adulterer doing push-ups while texting (who also appeared to be waiting for someone!). And just over the weekend, I saw a group of 4 boys - around the age of 6 and 7 - forming a circle and peeing in unison by a gum tree directly facing my windows. Today though, topped it all - so far. There were 3 little children playing with their parents. Just another normal day I thought to myself. Then I took notice of an old man - in his 50s - who just turned up from nowhere and didn't look like he was related to anyone in the playground. He was looking rather odd holding a strange looking equipment. I looked closely and AHHH! The man was holding a metal detector and wearing a head set, going around and round the periphery where the swings are located. I don't know if he found what he was looking for but I know for a fact that he put up an interesting show for the 3 little kiddies playing in the park. And their parents. And the person looking out of her tinted kitchen windows.

To Tsk or Not to Tsk

2010-08-05T16:28:00.006+10:00

Cashel goes to this wonderful Mandarin-based playgroup and when I say wonderful, it really is a lovely, fun-filled little group of children and mums. And it seems all we want out of this group primarily is for the children to socialise and learn in a Mandarin-speaking environment. The location of the playgroup is not at all close to where I live but everyweek, Cashel and I will diligently make the long drive there. Personally, I think it is well worth all the trouble and as far as Cashel is concern, it is really the only planned social activity he goes to (unlike his big sister!). I think this is a pretty well-designed early learning program - where he gets a good mix of everything - a bit of story-telling, a bit of reading, a bit of coloring, a bit of music and a bit of playing. Afterall, he is only 18 months. And in between all these activities, there is snack time. To me, eating habits and table manners are very much a great part of early learning too. After last week's playgroup, I am even more adamant about it!

At every snack time, the routine runs like clock work. Children sit on their respective chairs. Then mums bring out snack boxes. Children dig in. Beautiful. But for some strange reason unexplainable by science, the same lovely children who sit down nicely to enjoy their snacks will turn to their friends' snack boxes. For some strange reason, it is like there's a predetermined set time that these children will look into some else's snack boxes. One child might see a friend's juicy watermelon, or another child might see a tasty cheese stick or one other child might see sweet muesli bar. Consequently, in a way only a child's innocence can, proceed to grab a piece for a taste. Some have a good chew and actually enjoy what they have just discovered. Some don't. One bite and a piece of yummy kiwi fruit ends up squashed. Or one bite and a piece of organic wholemeal biscuit become a mini frisbee.

So far, all the mums in the group have been very casual about this situation. We all know these children are simply exploring new things - as we want them to in the first place! But we do try to avoid situations when our own child messes up other children's snacks, or when our child take someone else's snacks without saying thank you and please. We politely apologise when a feisty food fight occurs like when one child is unwilling to share or another rudely snatches.

Just when I have been thinking such decorum is widespread throughout the group, last week I was rudely reminded that no, not everyone. So the scenario was the same - kids sat down, kids ate own snack. Then the 'exploring' began. And it was my son who slowly stuck his hand out for a piece of watermelon in a little girl's snack box. She quickly reached for her snack box and grabbed it towards herself, and used her chest to cover it so Cashel couldn't touch it. It was obvious to me the little girl didn't want to share her watermelons. Fair enough, I thought - "Each child to their own" - and so I pulled Cashel away from her and told him sternly not to do it again. I said sorry to mum and little girl, and while the girl was occupied with safeguarding her fruit gold, mum didn't even look up to acknowledge my apology. Maybe she didn't hear me, I told myself. Sometimes some mums get overwhelmed in a situation like that. I let it slide.

By this time, all the other kids have finished eating and the teacher has directed them to the play corner. Cashel joined another 2 boys on the train playset while that little girl was still eating her gold. I then went on to pack up his snack box and helped the teacher to clean up the tables which was when I heard in the background, "No, Cashel! No, Cashel! NO!!!!!"

Cashel was standing next to the girl, trying his luck at another piece of watermelon! What the.....!!! This boy had just finished almost a whole banana, half a bottle of water and some muesli!! The little girl was jumping angrily while the mum told myself off, gave my son THE STARE, and uttered "Tsk, tsk". I quickly pulled Cashel away and at the very same moment, the mother said to her little girl, "It's OK (name), it's OK. Calm down" I was rather worked up by that stage - by my 'greedy' boy, by the little girl's uncontrollable temperament (she's a year older than Cashel) and by the mother's handling of the situation. I should mention this mother and daughter is new to our group. So perhaps what I have said about all the mothers' consensus regarding the children's nice sharing habits should not apply to her! She tsked at my son!!!! I should also mention that the previous week, the same little girl grabbed a piece of Cashel's banana and ate it. I didn't say a thing, naturally but when after she had finished the first piece she went back for more. There was none left so she grabbed the one Cashel had just barely eaten which he abandoned in favour of some nutrigrain. I remember this incident clearly because I had to alert her mother to inform her that her little girl is eating Cashel's half eaten banana. I was conscious of germs really, because Cashel had the sniffles that week. She didn't say much to me then - she took that piece of banana away from her daughter, threw it away and said, "Who gave it to you (name)?" I should have known back then but I was so thick I didn't realise she's not someone I want or should deal with.

So this week, I avoided both mother and daughter and watched Cashel like a hawk. I made absolutely sure that Cashel is as far away from them as possible. And of course, I made sure Cashel did not sit next to them during snack time. And just like any other week, snack time went beautifully today. Cashel took a piece of grape from a little boy's box, and the little boy took a piece of muesli from Cashel's box. The little boy's mother and I quietly cheered our boys on how wonderful it is that they are sharing and made sure they said thank you to each other. Another little girl took a piece of strawberry from Cashel's box which tasted rather sour so she spat it out. We all laughed at her abrupt reaction. She also almost took a sip from Cashel's bottle but her mother managed to stop her. She quietly said sorry for that and we had a few giggles because her daughter was fascinated by Cashel's water bottle. Lovely. Kids will be kids. Just don't tsk. It is impolite!

Lastly, my curiousity got the better of me. I wanted to see how that little girl behaved with other children - just to know for myself how she is really like. And I guess I was also very curious about the dynamics between her and her mother. So I watched from afar. I think she's just another normal little girl, but there's certainly an unwillingness, or more accurately, the inability to share with other children. Today, she went up to some children who were playing with puzzles. She joined the game and while everyone was playing nicely, she started hoarding the puzzle pieces. The teacher had to tell her to share and return all the puzzles. She hung on to one piece and what did mum do? Nothing. When the little girl finally got visibly upset, she took the puzzle off her daughter's hand and distracted her with another game. Should I remind you all that this little girl is a year older than Cashel? She's 2 and a half.

From what I can tell from observing this little girl today, I think she's just a spoilt little brat, which is no fault of hers, really. Her mum appears a little older than most of us, so like I have seen over and over again, it may well be a case of older mum (and possibly dad) combined with the little girl being the one and only child.

Bright Eyes Cheeky Eyes

2010-08-04T22:31:00.003+10:00

There was once a very cheeky little boy...............

He's up to something!

Stating his innocence but he can't fool Mummy!

Taken the 'secret' out of hiding and start chewing!!! It's his sister's spoon!

Still wouldn't give the spoon back to me. There were chases around the kitchen bench after this shot was taken.

Cuddling up to Farr. Happy!

Farr teaching the kids art on the doodle pad. Hilarious.

The Junior Sartorialist

2010-07-20T14:51:00.003+10:00

I have featured her photographic skills many times as she has become very adept in taking photos as above - one of a very reluctant subject. My late father encouraged me to learn to use the camera correctly and properly when I was very young - not quite as young as 5, but as he had always enjoyed photography and got me to do the same. So Aqira and I have been sharing camera for a while now knowing full well she'll look after it. Now she has taken her 'skill' up a notch and has discovered - all by herself - the way to use the self timer. Her grandfather would be very proud.

Tea at the Clark's

2010-07-19T15:18:00.002+10:00

A late afternoon tea with the bride and groom-to-be. These 2 are going to be very busy in the coming months leading up to November! Wooohoooooo!!! An official and a public congratulations from the Clarks to you both.

Lygon on Cold Front

2010-07-18T16:29:00.009+10:00

It was a wintry Friday evening. David and I decided to brave the cold and took the kids out for dinner in our favourite food haunt, Lygon Street. The evening turned really out well - the cold was pleasantly uplifting, and the air calm and refreshing. All the restaurants had their overhead heaters and chimeneas switched on so it felt really warm, comfy and very toasty. The children behaved themselves - except - when Cashel had enough of table manners and started throwing his food out of his tray - bit by bit. It could have been worse - but we managed to stop him before a disastrous end to our evening.

Happy indeed! Miss Clark here consumed 2 bowls of kids size Spaghetti Bolognaise by herself! (Equivalent of an entree size bowl)

Some home packed starters for Master Clark. He is loves astrawberries at the moment. And loves using his own cutlery.

Daddy was looking forward to his Penne Arrabiatta. Something mummy can't make very well (because mummy doesn't like Hot Salami).

Hungry people waiting for their yummy pasta.